The Neuroscience of Taking Back the Day They Tried to Destroy November 1st.For most, it’s just another date.For me, it was once annihilation.It was the day the Guardia Civil came to the house, the day everything I’d been hiding behind collapsed.Someone called them.They looked through the bedroom window.They told me to open the door — and my… Read More 🧠 “Do Your Worst — I’m Free”
The Neuroscience and Psychology of Life After Control There comes a moment when survival is no longer enough.When you stop asking “How do I get through this?” and begin asking“What do I want my life to look like now?” That question is both terrifying and liberating — because for the first time in years, the answer belongs… Read More 🌿 Rebuilding the Self:
The Neuroscience of Coercive Control After Divorce A year ago, I filed for divorce after thirty-two years together — twenty of them married. All I asked for was the bare minimum: the 50% that Spanish law entitles me to.I didn’t ask for hidden pensions, secret savings, or anything he’d spent years concealing.Just equality. Nothing more. His… Read More 🧠 When Control Masquerades as Negotiation
The Neuroscience of Falling in Love with Someone You Already Trust It’s one of the most natural — and yet most surprising — transitions: when a deep friendship quietly transforms into love. From a neuroscience perspective, this shift isn’t magic or mystery; it’s the brain recognizing safety, reward, and emotional synchrony at a deeper level.… Read More 🧠 When Good Friends Become Lovers
When an entire family becomes abusive — locking you out, controlling finances, stalking, sending threats — this reflects a collective dysfunction of empathy, power, and fear.From both neuroscience and psychology, several key mechanisms explain this: 1. Collective Trauma & Learned Behavior In many abusive families, destructive patterns are learned, repeated, and reinforced over generations. Each family member unconsciously plays… Read More 🧠 Neuroscience & Psychology of Abusive Family Systems
The intersection of psychology, neuroscience, and criminal behavior—specifically, when violent fantasies escalate beyond intimate or marital relationships and begin targeting others. Here’s a breakdown: 1. Psychological Basis 2. Neuroscience Perspective 3. Risk Indicators 4. Legal & Safety Implications This is a serious warning sign: when an abuser’s violent fantasies start including others beyond the intimate circle, it’s no longer just domestic… Read More Serious warning signs
Some individuals derive satisfaction from inflicting emotional or psychological pain. This behavior, often called emotional or psychological sadism, is more than just cruelty—it’s rooted in specific patterns of brain activity and psychological traits. Understanding the neuroscience can help victims recognize the danger and reclaim their power. 1. Reward Pathways and Pleasure from Pain Research shows that in… Read More When an Abuser Takes Pleasure in Your Pain: The Neuroscience Behind Emotional Sadism
The period after leaving an abusive partner is often the most dangerous, and neuroscience helps explain why. Here’s a detailed guide on warning signs, brain-based responses, and why they shouldn’t be ignored, even when law enforcement is involved. 🧠 Why Danger Escalates After Leaving When a victim leaves, the abuser experiences it as a loss of control — literally a threat… Read More 🧠 Why Danger Escalates After Leaving
Understanding the Neuroscience of Possessive Abuse At first glance, people who commit intimate-partner violence often claim they acted out of love — that they “couldn’t bear to lose” their partner. But psychologists and neuroscientists know that what drives them isn’t love; it’s a pathological fusion of attachment and control — a wiring error deep within the emotional… Read More 🧠 The Pathological Fusion of Love and Control
2. Foot Tapping & Restless Movements 3. Rapid Emotional Shifts (Crying → Laughing) What Type of Behavior Is This? In short, this is a combination of masking + leakage + emotional dysregulation. The person is trying to control how others perceive them, but subtle cues (eyes, movements, and sudden emotional shifts) reveal their internal turmoil.
