Love is a complex and multifaceted emotion that encompasses a range of feelings, attitudes, and behaviors. It can be experienced in various forms, including romantic love, familial love, platonic love, and self-love. Here are some key aspects of love:
When you’re in a relationship with someone who disappears on weekends and avoids communication, it sends important signals—and not the kind that foster safety, trust, or emotional connection. Let’s explore what this behavior could suggest, both on the surface and at a deeper psychological level: 🔍 What It Might Suggest – At Face Value 🧠 What It Means Psychologically 💔 How… Read More Face Value
Had a weird and wonderful conversation with my daughter this morning.It started with her looking over her tea mug and saying:“Do you ever feel like you’re living in the Twilight Zone?”And me, mid-toast, just nodded and whispered, “Constantly.” Because honestly, this week? It’s been like someone gave our lives a shake like a snow globe and said, “Let’s… Read More 🌀 Welcome to the Twilight Zone: Family Edition 🌀
Not just the words.But the tone of those WhatsApp messages.The timing of the emails that always seem to follow a moment of peace and just before a criminal court case.The voice recording full of venom, manipulation, and veiled threats.The relentless pressure, the fear, the forced apologies. They’ve heard it in the recording.They’ve read it in the texts.They’ve felt it through you—through… Read More Your friends and family have seen it all now.
The short answer is:They can feel pleasure. But true, lasting happiness — the kind rooted in connection, integrity, and peace — is something most abusers cannot sustain.Here’s why, through the lens of neuroscience and psychology: 🧠 Abusers Often Confuse Control with Happiness Psychologically speaking, many abusers don’t define happiness the way emotionally healthy people do.For most… Read More Can abusers be truly happy? Really, deeply, peacefully happy — not just on the surface?
An open letter to anyone who forgot what it feels like to be alive And breathe…It’s taken me decades to get here. Decades to feel my chest rise and fall without fear.Decades to exhale without bracing for the emotional coldness that always followed.Decades to feel seen, heard, and safe. I didn’t realise I was starving.Not for food —… Read More “And Breathe… I Am Free at Last”
“I Never Knew Life Could Feel Like This”The neuroscience of what happens when you finally meet someone emotionally available You didn’t know what you were missing.Not until you met someone who smiled with their whole face.Whose eyes lit up when they saw you.Who listened, really listened.Who touched you gently, not just with their hands — but with… Read More “I Never Knew Life Could Feel Like This”
Why Some People Feel Empty Inside: The Neuroscience of Emotional UnavailabilityFor those who’ve ever felt invisible in the presence of someone they love. Some people walk into a room and light it up. Others… dim the energy without saying a word.They might not yell. They don’t hit. They may even seem kind.But they never really see you.They… Read More The Neuroscience of Emotional Unavailability
There’s fear.And then there’s violation. It’s one thing to worry about someone lurking nearby.It’s another thing entirely when they step over your threshold, snoop through your belongings, and try to erase the line between their control and your autonomy. When someone enters your home without consent, they aren’t just trespassing.They are sending a message:“You are not safe, even here.”… Read More 🚫 When They Cross the Line and Enter Your Home: The Ultimate Violation of Safety
There’s something deeply satisfying — almost sacred — about chucking things out. Not just old receipts and mismatched socks, but the emotional landfill too. Especially when the stuff you’re binning belonged to someone who treated your heart like a doormat and your kindness like an overdraft. I found myself knee-deep in the Buena Vista Tennis Club Diaries, May… Read More 🧹 Clear It Out, Laugh It Off, Move On: The Break-Up Spring Clean You Didn’t Know You Needed
There’s a theory in psychology and grief work called “the last meeting.” It suggests that we often don’t know when the final moment with someone will come—until it has already passed. The last text. The last hug. The last breath. The last time we saw their eyes and didn’t realize it was goodbye. For many of us,… Read More “The Last Meeting” – A Love Letter to What Was Left Unsaid
Linda C J Turner | Trauma Therapist & Emotional Healing Specialist 