Love is a complex and multifaceted emotion that encompasses a range of feelings, attitudes, and behaviors. It can be experienced in various forms, including romantic love, familial love, platonic love, and self-love. Here are some key aspects of love:
Someone who spent years refusing to share Spain with you, refusing to visit your daughter, rejecting every part of that life, now suddenly chooses to stay in the very place he once “hated.” The truth is, when someone behaves this way, it’s usually not about Spain at all. It’s about psychology, control, and ego. A… Read More ✨ A Last Hold
Someone who spent years saying “no,” refusing to share important parts of your life, and criticizing everything you valued, suddenly choosing to remain in the very place he claimed to hate — it’s deeply contradictory. From a psychological perspective, this kind of behavior is actually very common in controlling or narcissistic personalities. It’s rarely about… Read More Complaining and criticizing
I know how it feels.I have lived with trauma for 32 years.I have breathed it for decades. I know the weight it carries, the way it drains your spirit, the way it convinces you that life will always feel this way. But I also know something else—I know that healing is possible. Because I’ve done… Read More From Trauma to Transformation: Join Me in Spain for a Healing Retreat
I didn’t always see it this way. For years, I thought life was just about keeping going, doing what was expected, and holding everything together. But slowly, I began to realise that my values—what truly mattered to me—were not the same as the values of the people closest to me. Your values are the compass.… Read More Our lives are shaped every single day by two invisible forces—our values and our beliefs.
From childhood, many of us are taught that honesty is a non-negotiable foundation of life. When someone close to us—like a parent—models this value with conviction, it can become part of our inner compass. We grow up carrying it forward, striving to live authentically and to build relationships based on openness. Yet, as many discover,… Read More The Neuroscience and Psychology of Truth and Honesty
Relational betrayal is a profoundly personal and often invisible form of trauma. It occurs when someone you deeply trust — a family member, partner, friend, or mentor — violates the implicit rules of your relationship, breaking trust in ways that undermine your sense of safety, belonging, and self-worth. Unlike general conflict, relational betrayal carries an… Read More Healing From Relational Betrayal
When the whole family knows the truth, and you don’t, it creates a reality where you are essentially living inside a play — a character in their story. They bond together in secrecy while you carry the burden of trust. 🧠 2. The Psychology of “Keeping You Small” 🧬 3. The Neuroscience of Betrayal Trauma Betrayal… Read More 💔 1. The Cruelty of Collusion
When you discover that your partner — and sometimes their entire family — is built around money, manipulation, and deceit, the betrayal cuts deeply. It’s not just the loss of financial stability. It’s the shattering of trust, the realization that you were never truly seen as a loved one, but as an asset to be drained. Here’s… Read More 🛡️ Healing After Financial Abuse by Exploitative Families: A Survivor’s Guide
When a whole family system is built around money, deceit, and the exploitation of partners, the impact is devastating. It stops being just “one toxic individual” and becomes a culture of exploitation, where dishonesty is normalized and love is replaced by transactions. Let’s unpack this through a psychological and neuroscientific lens: 1. When a Family Revolves Around Money Some… Read More When a Family Revolves Around Money
When you’ve spent decades of your life beside someone, you assume you know them. You trust their words, their values, their “truth.” You believe the picture they present to the world—and to you. But when the lies begin to unravel, it hits with the force of an earthquake:Did I even know this person at all? Discovering that… Read More Did I Even Know This Person? Living With Lies That Spanned Decades
Linda C J Turner | Trauma Therapist & Emotional Healing Specialist 