Three phases of a nervous system exiting captivity.

PHASE 1: DETACHMENT (While still inside, or immediately after leaving) Primary function: Survival efficiencyDominant system: Autonomic nervous system (freeze → controlled shutdown) What’s happening internally This is when people say: They haven’t.They’ve gone offline. Key marker (this is important): You stop explaining yourself — even in your own head. Once justification disappears, detachment has begun. PHASE 2: GRIEF (Only once… Read More Three phases of a nervous system exiting captivity.

“When Love Is Real, It Doesn’t Wait for a Will”

It’s fascinating, isn’t it? After 32 years of exclusion—from birthdays, holidays, Christmases, and the very heart of what family is supposed to be—suddenly, the word family is everywhere. Now, according to whispers and WhatsApp messages, he’s “dying.” And there’s an inheritance to be shared. And just like that… the doors swing open. The people who never made… Read More “When Love Is Real, It Doesn’t Wait for a Will”