“Does this information increase my safety or only my stress?”

harmful disclosure doesn’t look dramatic at first. Neuroscience shows it often erodes recovery quietly, through stress accumulation rather than acute distress. Here are the clear, evidence-based signs that disclosures are starting to harm your recovery. 1. Your nervous system stays activated after contact Key sign: the reaction doesn’t settle. Neuroscience: You may notice: If your body remains alert long after… Read More “Does this information increase my safety or only my stress?”

January 17, 2026 Linda C J TurnerLeave a comment

Judgement

“What You See Is Not What Is Happening” Why People Jump to Assumptions — Neuroscience & Psychology 1. The brain is a pattern-completion machine The human brain evolved to make fast judgments, not accurate ones. When people see: the brain automatically fills in the gaps using past social templates: “Couple.” “Affair.” “Relationship.” This is driven by the hippocampus and predictive… Read More Judgement

January 17, 2026 Linda C J TurnerLeave a comment

Why People Engage More With Struggle Than With Joy

A Neuroscience & Psychology Perspective Many people notice a puzzling pattern on social media and in real life:When you’re struggling, sharing pain, or “not doing well,” engagement pours in.When you’re healing, happy, confident, or visibly thriving—attention drops off. This is not accidental, and it is not about your worth. 1. The Brain Is Wired to… Read More Why People Engage More With Struggle Than With Joy

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“This Isn’t New — It’s the Same Game in a Different Arena”Why Long-Term Mind Games Continue After Separation

When you’ve lived with decades of psychological manipulation, the most destabilising part isn’t the behaviour itself. It’s the moment you realise:This is just a continuation of the same pattern. Different setting.Different language.Same impact on your nervous system. That recognition is not bitterness.It’s pattern recognition. What Kind of Person Does This? From a trauma-informed and neuroscience perspective,… Read More “This Isn’t New — It’s the Same Game in a Different Arena”Why Long-Term Mind Games Continue After Separation

December 18, 2025December 18, 2025 Linda C J TurnerLeave a comment

How to Deal With This Without Going Crazy(A Trauma-Informed, Neuroscience-Based Guide)

First, an important reframe: If you feel anxious, angry, hyper-alert, exhausted, or mentally foggy in this situation, you are not “going crazy.”Your nervous system is responding normally to an abnormal level of prolonged uncertainty and control. The goal is not to “stay calm.”The goal is to stay regulated enough to function and protect yourself. 1. Stop Treating This… Read More How to Deal With This Without Going Crazy(A Trauma-Informed, Neuroscience-Based Guide)

December 18, 2025December 18, 2025 Linda C J TurnerLeave a comment

When Divorce Becomes a Control Strategy: A Neuroscience Perspective

What happens when you file for divorce in 2024 and the other person says “no”?What happens when your solicitor receives no response for months?When you try to sell the house, put forward offers, and hear nothing?When “For Sale” signs are quietly removed in the night?And then—one year later—you are accused, sued, or taken to court… Read More When Divorce Becomes a Control Strategy: A Neuroscience Perspective

December 18, 2025December 18, 2025 Linda C J TurnerLeave a comment

The Core Move: Pre‑emptive Inversion

When someone says: “You have no filter”“You’re too harsh”“You’re aggressive” while they use foul language, character attacks, and accusations in private, they are doing something called: Defensive Attribution + Projection Neurologically, this is about threat detection, not communication. 1. Exposure Triggers the Threat Response When an abuser senses that: Their amygdala fires — not from fear of harm, but fear… Read More The Core Move: Pre‑emptive Inversion

December 16, 2025December 16, 2025 Linda C J TurnerLeave a comment

🧠 Why a Psychologist’s Shock Is Neurologically Significant

When a trained psychologist is visibly shocked, it tells you something important about the severity and objectivity of what you endured. This is not about validation through emotion. It’s about clinical reality breaking through professional neutrality. 🧠 Why a Psychologist’s Shock Is Neurologically Significant Psychologists are trained to: So when their face gives it away, something unusual is happening at a… Read More 🧠 Why a Psychologist’s Shock Is Neurologically Significant

December 16, 2025December 16, 2025 Linda C J TurnerLeave a comment

Filters

Upbringing and character shape communication at a nervous-system level, not just a “personality” level. People don’t simply choose how they communicate — they default to what their brain learned was safe, effective, or rewardedearly in life. I’ll break this down clearly and then show how different upbringings produce different communication styles. 🧠 1. Early Environment Wires the Communication System A… Read More Filters

December 16, 2025 Linda C J TurnerLeave a comment

Just Being — When the Nervous System Finally Rests

There are moments in healing when life feels exactly as it should — not because everything is perfect, but because everything is aligned. When things begin to fall into place without force.When you hand control over to a higher power — however you understand that — and allow yourself to soften.When effort gives way to trust.… Read More Just Being — When the Nervous System Finally Rests

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