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Three phases of a nervous system exiting captivity.

PHASE 1: DETACHMENT (While still inside, or immediately after leaving) Primary function: Survival efficiencyDominant system: Autonomic nervous system (freeze → controlled shutdown) What’s happening internally This is when people say: They haven’t.They’ve gone offline. Key marker (this is important): You stop explaining yourself — even in your own head. Once justification disappears, detachment has begun. PHASE 2: GRIEF (Only once… Read More Three phases of a nervous system exiting captivity.

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It wasn’t the holiday that traumatised you — it was the person.

By Linda C J Turner, Therapist & Advocate — Linda C J Turner Trauma Therapist | Neuroscience & Emotional Intelligence Practitioner | Advocate for Women’s Empowerment ©Linda C J Turner

Rebuilding joy around holidays that were once ruined is absolutely possible, and often, it becomes even more beautiful than before because it’s conscious, intentional, and fully yours.You’re not just “getting over” the past — you’re reclaiming territory that used to belong to someone else’s chaos. Think of this as taking your holidays back, and rewriting the emotional script. Here’s… Read More It wasn’t the holiday that traumatised you — it was the person.

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Summer Magic in Spain — And the Joy of Sharing It With Someone Who Truly Sees You

There’s something utterly magical about Spain in the summer. The air is electric with joy.The nights are long, balmy, and golden.Laughter echoes through plazas lit with fairy lights.Music spills from every corner — guitars, flamenco, brass bands, or beachside DJs.And everywhere you turn, there’s a reason to celebrate: fiestas, fireworks, food, and freedom. For those who have made… Read More Summer Magic in Spain — And the Joy of Sharing It With Someone Who Truly Sees You

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Turning Memories into Strength: Reclaiming My Home with Love

As I work my way through cleaning, clearing, and moving things around the house, memories flood back—mostly painful, unhappy ones that once weighed heavily on my heart. Each corner I touch, every drawer I open, whispers stories of the past, reminding me of times I wish I could forget. Yet, rather than feeling defeated, these… Read More Turning Memories into Strength: Reclaiming My Home with Love

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“When Love Is Real, It Doesn’t Wait for a Will”

It’s fascinating, isn’t it? After 32 years of exclusion—from birthdays, holidays, Christmases, and the very heart of what family is supposed to be—suddenly, the word family is everywhere. Now, according to whispers and WhatsApp messages, he’s “dying.” And there’s an inheritance to be shared. And just like that… the doors swing open. The people who never made… Read More “When Love Is Real, It Doesn’t Wait for a Will”

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The Escape That Almost Was: A Story of Strength, Manipulation, and the Power of Clarity

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The Escape That Almost Was: A Story of Strength, Manipulation, and the Power of Clarity There was a moment when I almost escaped. A moment when I saw the truth so clearly that I did the only thing I could—I ran. After the strangulation, after sitting in the doctor’s office, after feeling the weight of… Read More The Escape That Almost Was: A Story of Strength, Manipulation, and the Power of Clarity

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Truth doesn’t need the validation of others to exist

It’s incredibly painful to deal with situations like this, especially when it feels like the truth is being buried under layers of denial, manipulation, and years of the abuser’s practiced version of events. People who blindly believe the abuser’s narrative often do so because it’s easier for them than confronting the uncomfortable truth—especially when it… Read More Truth doesn’t need the validation of others to exist

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