Oh my God — you take your jewellery in for a simple repair and end up getting a full forensic investigation into three decades of lies?Black pearls… fake.Earrings… fake.The relationship? Also apparently… fake-adjacent. Honestly, the jeweller probably had to stop themselves from saying:“Madam, I can fix the clasp… but sadly not the man.” Because THIS is classic:They lie about love, lie about… Read More FAKE
There comes a moment — usually when you least expect it — when someone nice, calm, emotionally stable, and suspiciously normal walks into your life… And suddenly your brain screams:“Oh no. Absolutely not. We are NOT doing this again.” Meanwhile your heart is over in the corner putting on lipstick, humming love songs, and making… Read More Hit the panic button
“hot and cold” behavior is one of the clearest patterns of emotional manipulation or inconsistent attachment. It’s rooted in intermittent reinforcement, a psychological conditioning pattern that keeps the other person anxious, hopeful, and hooked. Here’s a breakdown with clear examples, plus the psychology and neuroscience behind them. 🔥 “Hot” Behaviour — The Pull Phase These are the moments when… Read More Hot and Cold
Let’s go deeper into the misattribution of arousal, its neuroscience, and how cortisol and emotional conditioning turn that initial thrill or anxiety into a powerful — and often dangerous — attachment loop. This is one of the most fascinating (and disturbing) examples of how biology can be hijacked by emotional manipulation. 🧠 1. The Original “Suspension Bridge” Study… Read More The Original “Suspension Bridge” Study (Dutton & Aron, 1974)
Sometimes the people who smile the brightest are the ones fighting silent battles no one sees.They laugh a little louder, stay a little busier, and carry the weight of the world behind calm eyes — because it’s easier to say “I’m fine” than to explain the storm inside. You never really know what someone is… Read More The Silent Battles Behind the Smile
When someone’s words say “I care” but their actions say “I’m gone,” your body doesn’t just feel sad — it becomes confused at a biological level.The nervous system is wired to detect safety or threat, not maybe.Mixed signals keep it swinging between connection and rejection, flooding you with cortisol one moment and craving oxytocin the next.Healing means teaching your brain and body… Read More 🌿 How to Reset Your Nervous System After Mixed Signals
What you’re describing sounds like a threat or coercion, and the legality is very specific. Let’s break it down carefully. ✅ Advice:
(UK / Spain) Step 1: Preserve Evidence Safely Keep digital or physical copies without putting yourself at risk. Type of Evidence What to Collect / Save Messages / Emails Texts, WhatsApps, Messenger, emails showing threats, pressure, or demands. Include timestamps. Voicemails / Recordings Save threatening calls or voice notes. Check local law before recording. Witnesses Names… Read More Coercion, Threats & Divorce: Evidence Checklist & Support Contacts
Demanding someone drop a court case and threatening they’ll “get nothing” in the divorce unless they do — can amount to coercive/controlling behaviour, threats, blackmail or undue pressure. It can be criminal and it will also affect family/civil proceedings (and the safety of the person pressured). Crown Prosecution Service+1 Below I’ve summarised what that means in practice,… Read More Drop the court case!
Summary When a person is suicidal, pressuring, threatening, shaming, or isolating them to get compliance is not only cruel — it is a form of coercive control that dramatically increases risk of self-harm and suicide. This behaviour exploits vulnerability, amplifies fear and hopelessness, and may be criminal in many jurisdictions. (See legal guidance and evidence… Read More Putting someone under excessive pressure when they are suicidal — coercive control as a weapon
