If he has often fallen out with close family members as well, that strongly suggests the conflict is a long-standing pattern, not something that suddenly appeared just because of your situation.

From a psychology point of view, when someone repeatedly has serious conflicts with:

• partners
• close relatives
• friends
• colleagues

it usually reflects how they handle relationships and control, rather than one specific disagreement.

What this pattern often means

1. Difficulty with accountability
People who repeatedly fall out with others often struggle to accept responsibility. When something goes wrong, the blame is placed on someone else.

2. Control and power struggles
Relationships can become about who wins or who has control, rather than cooperation or compromise.

3. Cycles of conflict
A common pattern is:

• things start normally
• tension builds
• conflict escalates
• the relationship breaks down
• a new conflict begins somewhere else

Over time this leaves a trail of damaged relationships.

Why the family may stay out of it

If his relatives have seen this pattern for years, they may have learned that getting involved only pulls them into the same conflict cycle. So they keep their distance, especially financially.

The important thing for you

When behaviour is a long-standing personality pattern, it rarely changes because of logic, fairness, or even legal pressure. That’s why trying to understand why he won’t choose the obvious solution (like buying you out) can feel so frustrating.

For someone driven by conflict or control, ending the fight quickly isn’t the priority.

One small positive in this

Patterns like this often mean that eventually the person runs out of people willing to engage in the conflict. Courts, legal processes, and time tend to push things toward a resolution even if the person keeps resisting.

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