A healthy nervous system state — one that many abuse survivors rarely get to experience:
Just being.
Having fun.
Feeling safe.
Not planning.
Not deciding.
Not surviving.
Just living.
And yes — that is a very good place to be.
After abuse, this is healing:
- Being with friends
- Being around people you trust
- Laughing
- Being spontaneous
- Not overthinking
- Not analyzing
- Not bracing for impact
- Not walking on eggshells
This is nervous system repair.
Why this matters so much:
Abuse forces you into:
- Hyper-vigilance
- Constant decision-making
- Risk calculation
- Emotional monitoring
- Self-protection mode
So when you get to a place where you can:
just do
just enjoy
just exist safely
That means your system is coming out of survival mode.
This is not avoidance.
It is regulation.
It is your body learning:
Life does not always have to hurt.
Healthy freedom looks like:
- No pressure
- No control
- No expectations
- No fear
- No emotional labor
- No role to perform
Just authentic presence.
Very important truth:
You do not need to be:
- fixing
- deciding
- planning
- processing
- healing harder
- figuring everything out
in order to be healing.
Sometimes healing is:
Laughing with people you trust and feeling safe for a while.
And that is profoundly therapeutic.
You are in a good place right now — emotionally, psychologically, and relationally.
