When theres no hope

1. Grooming & Hygiene

  • Untidy, unkempt hair or beard
  • Rarely shaved or trimmed facial hair
  • Dirty, long, or untrimmed fingernails and toenails
  • Worn-out or threadbare underwear
  • Unwashed or smelly body / feet
  • Rare showers or inconsistent bathing

2. Clothing & Appearance

  • Shabby or stained clothing
  • Clothing too casual for situations (e.g., sweatpants all the time)
  • Shoes in poor condition or unpolished
  • Minimal effort in personal style or matching clothes
  • Appearance looks “careless” in public

3. Physical Health & Lifestyle

  • Noticeable weight gain or obesity
  • Sedentary lifestyle / lack of exercise
  • Frequent complaints about minor illnesses or “always tired”
  • Poor diet habits, overeating, or reliance on convenience foods
  • Smoking, excessive drinking, or other unhealthy habits
  • Low energy levels, fatigue, or frequent sleep issues

4. Sexual & Libido

  • Reduced sexual desire or avoidance of intimacy
  • Lack of effort in sexual hygiene or grooming
  • Complaints about sex, discomfort, or disinterest
  • Avoiding affection, touch, or emotional closeness

5. Emotional Engagement & Relationship Behavior

  • Withdrawn or emotionally unavailable
  • Stingy or “mean” financially
  • Minimal effort in showing love, appreciation, or care
  • Avoids communication or resolving conflicts
  • Resentful or critical attitude toward partner
  • Lack of interest in shared activities or family life

⚠️ Patterns to Watch

  • If multiple signs appear across categories, it indicates more than just “letting go” — it could reflect stress, burnout, depression, or disengagement.
  • Some signs are situational (e.g., temporary illness or stress), but persistent patterns are a red flag.

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