A recognizable pattern of “letting oneself go” in a long-term relationship or marriage. It’s important to see this as a combination of physical, emotional, and behavioral signs, not just laziness or lack of care. Here’s a breakdown of the main signs:-
1. Grooming & Hygiene
- Untidy hair / unshaven — rarely trimming hair, beard, or mustache; lack of daily grooming.
- Dirty feet and nails — unwashed feet, long or grimy toenails/fingernails.
- Threadbare underwear — wearing worn-out or ill-fitting undergarments.
These are signs of reduced self-care, often reflecting apathy or depression, not just laziness.
2. Clothing & Appearance
- Shabbily dressed / too casual clothing — shirts with stains, old t-shirts, slippers outside, untidy shoes.
- Overall lack of effort — dressing purely for comfort or convenience, not appearance.
Indicates complacency in personal image or in the eyes of a partner.
3. Physical Health & Lifestyle
- Overweight / sedentary — weight gain, lack of exercise.
- “Always ill” or hypochondriac tendencies — frequent complaints about minor ailments or chronic fatigue.
- Low libido / sexual disinterest — reduced sexual energy or avoidance of intimacy.
Often linked to stress, hormonal changes, aging, or mental health issues.
4. Emotional & Relationship Behavior
- Mean financially or with love — stingy, withholding affection, emotionally cold.
- Neglect of relationship responsibilities — avoiding emotional or practical contributions, showing minimal effort.
Suggests disengagement or resentment, not just physical neglect.
⚠️ Pattern Insight
When many of these signs cluster together, it often reflects:
- Emotional burnout or depression
- Complacency in long-term relationships
- Health neglect
- Resentment or lack of investment in the partnership
