Here’s a concise one-page “Staying vs Leaving Costs” comparison you can pair with your self-assessment. It’s neutral, factual, and helps clarify the emotional, mental, and practical stakes.
Staying vs Leaving: Costs Comparison
| Domain | Staying | Leaving |
|---|---|---|
| Safety | Possible continued emotional, mental, or physical risk | Reclaim personal safety and boundaries |
| Self-Esteem & Dignity | Gradual erosion if respect, trust, or empathy is missing | Opportunity to rebuild confidence and self-respect |
| Mental Health | Stress, anxiety, self-doubt, confusion, hypervigilance | Emotional adjustment, grief, then relief and clarity |
| Emotional Energy | Constantly managing conflict, fear, or manipulation | Energy redirected to healing, growth, and self-care |
| Freedom & Autonomy | Limited choices, dependence, and compromised boundaries | Greater independence and decision-making power |
| Relationships | Isolation, strained friendships or family | Reconnect with supportive networks and authentic connections |
| Growth & Future | Stunted personal development, repeating patterns | Space to discover values, goals, and healthy relationships |
| Financial / Practical | May maintain stability but at the cost of emotional health | Short-term adjustment, potential independence, long-term alignment with values |
| Guilt / Obligation | Pressure to stay for fear, duty, or hope | Courage to prioritize self without shame |
Reflection Prompt
- Which column feels heavier when you read it?
- Which costs can you bear long-term?
- Which costs feel unsustainable for your well-being?
Insight: Staying or leaving isn’t just a choice about the other person — it’s about what you are willing to compromise in your life, health, and self-respect.
