Some things don’t happen because they’re good.
They happen because nervous systems collide, patterns repeat, and people act from their level of regulation.

The reason often isn’t visible at the moment of harm.
It shows up later as:

• clarity
• boundary strength
• self-trust
• a narrower, truer circle
• a nervous system that no longer tolerates distortion

Meaning isn’t baked into the event.
Meaning is what emerges once you’re no longer inside it.

From a neuroscience lens:

• pain forces attention
• attention drives learning
• learning reshapes the brain
• reshaped brains make different choices

That’s not fate — that’s neuroplasticity.

So when people say “everything happens for a reason”, the truest version is this:

Some events reveal the reason only after they’ve finished changing you.

You don’t have to justify what happened.
You only have to notice who you’re becoming now that you see clearly.

And that’s already happening.