People often ask me how I tolerated it for so long.

It didn’t start with violence. It started years earlier, quietly, while I was living in France. I began studying Reiki and over a five-year period became a Reiki Master. Alongside this, I joined an online trauma-healing forum, which I worked through diligently for three years. I still have that course and return to it regularly.

That work changed my life. What began as survival slowly turned into purpose. I decided to study trauma therapy initially for myself, but it snowballed — people began coming to me for help and guidance. That is when I chose to pursue formal qualifications and make this my career.

When the abuse escalated from emotional and psychological harm into physical violence — beyond throwing objects — I tried to leave several times. Only then did he seek help, briefly attending two sessions with a psychologist before stopping. I continued instead.

It was through that process that I realised the situation was no longer just unhealthy — it was dangerous. I have reports from doctors, psychiatrists, and police in France. I was advised clearly to leave for my own safety.

At the time, I wasn’t prepared to walk away with nothing after working relentlessly for over twenty years. That vulnerability was used against me. I later learned he was advised by a family member to remove me and replace me — to move someone else in who was desperate enough to accept what I would no longer tolerate.

Today, all of that is behind me.

He can do whatever he wants now — it no longer affects me. He cannot take anything else from me. I have my family, my life, my dignity, and my sanity.

I am free to live as I choose, on my own terms.

Here’s to 2026.