What a cougar actually is:
A “cougar” is a slang term for an older woman (usually 35+) who is romantically or sexually interested in significantly younger men. The label specifically refers to age-dynamic relationships, not financial status. The defining feature is the age gap and the woman’s confidence in pursuing someone younger.
Why people mistakenly think women with money are “cougars”:
- Money is often conflated with power or sexual agency. In society, when a woman has wealth and independence, some assume she must be using it to attract younger partners.
- Stereotypes of older wealthy women. Media often portrays rich women as seeking excitement, luxury, or younger lovers, which reinforces the myth.
- Cultural discomfort with female sexuality. A woman expressing desire—especially if she’s successful or older—can trigger judgment, so people label her as a “cougar” regardless of her actual interests.
- Visibility bias. High-profile cases of older wealthy women dating younger men get exaggerated attention, creating the illusion that it’s common.
Key takeaway:
Being financially independent, successful, or wealthy does not make a woman a cougar. Cougar status is about age preferences in romantic or sexual relationships, not about money or lifestyle.
