For people-pleasers, setting boundaries can feel uncomfortable—but it’s essential for protecting your energy, self-respect, and relationships. Here’s how to do it in real-world situations:

1. Friendships

• When asked for constant favors: “I can’t help this time, but I hope you can find another solution.”
• When friends dominate conversations: “I’d like to share my perspective too.”

2. Family

• When family members overstep your time or space: “I need this time for myself right now. I’ll check in later.”
• When guilt-tripping occurs: “I understand you feel that way, but I’m not able to change my decision.”

3. Work

• When overloaded with tasks: “I can take this on next week, but right now my schedule is full.”
• When colleagues expect favors beyond your role: “I’m happy to help when it’s part of my responsibilities, but I can’t do extra work on short notice.”

Tips for success

• Start small: Practice boundaries on minor requests first.
• Be consistent: Respect your own limits so others learn to respect them too.
• Use neutral language: Avoid over-apologizing—clarity beats defensiveness.
• Reframe guilt: Saying no is self-respect, not selfishness.
• Prioritize reciprocity: Invest energy in relationships where boundaries are respected.

Boundaries are the key for people-pleasers to remain generous without being exploited. Saying no isn’t rejection—it’s the foundation for healthier, more balanced connections.