You can’t cheat on someone if you truly love them. It’s not just a moral choice — your brain literally reinforces genuine attachment and care. When we are in authentic love, our brains release oxytocin and dopamine, creating a bond that makes betrayal feel almost impossible. Love isn’t just a feeling; it’s a neural commitment.

If you find yourself crossing boundaries, seeking attention elsewhere, or entertaining the idea of cheating, that’s not love. It’s desire, distraction, or unmet needs — but it is not true love. Neuroscience tells us that real attachment motivates protective, considerate behavior, not secrecy or deception.

Psychologically, cheating also causes cognitive dissonance: your actions contradict your beliefs, creating stress, guilt, and anxiety. People who truly love someone don’t willingly put themselves or their partner through that internal conflict — because their love aligns behavior and intention.

So, don’t waste someone’s time. Be honest about your intentions. Love is not just what you say; it’s what your brain, your heart, and your actions consistently show. True love doesn’t cheat. It nurtures, protects, and prioritizes connection.

By Linda C J Turner, Therapist & Advocate — Linda C J Turner Trauma Therapist | Neuroscience & Emotional Intelligence Practitioner | Advocate for Women’s Empowerment ©Linda C J Turner