If someone really wants you, you’ll know.
It won’t be a guessing game.
It won’t be mixed signals.
It won’t be head-spinning mind games or emotional exhaustion.
It won’t be on and off, hot then cold, kind when they want something and distant when they don’t.
It won’t be detachment when you set boundaries or the silent treatment when they feel like punishing you.

Some people are clueless about love — not because they’re evil, but because they’ve never learned what secure attachment feels like.

💡 The Neuroscience of Love and Confusion

Love, from a brain perspective, is a chemical symphony — oxytocin for bonding, dopamine for reward, serotonin for calm.
When a relationship is consistent and emotionally safe, these systems work together to create stability and trust. Your nervous system relaxes; you feel grounded.

But in toxic or inconsistent dynamics, the opposite happens.
The brain’s reward pathway becomes hijacked by uncertainty.
The unpredictable cycle of affection and withdrawal triggers dopamine surges, the same chemical involved in addiction. This keeps you hooked — not on love, but on the hope of love.

It’s why you feel anxious when they’re distant and euphoric when they return. It’s not romance — it’s neurological conditioning.

🧠 Psychology of Mixed Signals

Psychologically, this pattern mimics intermittent reinforcement — one of the most powerful behavioral traps known to science.
When affection is inconsistent, your brain keeps chasing it, thinking next time will be different. Over time, self-worth erodes, boundaries blur, and your nervous system learns chaos as normal.

❤️ Real Love Feels Safe, Not Confusing

Healthy love doesn’t play games. It’s clear, kind, emotionally available, and steady.
It respects boundaries, communicates openly, and never punishes with silence.

If someone really wants you — you won’t have to decode messages, overthink pauses, or read between lines.
Your body will know it’s safe.
Your brain will know it’s calm.
And your heart will finally know it’s home.