By Linda C. J. Turner | Trauma Therapist & Neuroscience Practitioner

Some people behave in ways that make everyone else cringe — making events all about themselves, exaggerating achievements, or inventing stories to seem impressive.

“Selling household products doesn’t make you an entrepreneur — honesty makes you credible.”

Exaggeration, self-aggrandizement, and contradictory stories may feel like charm to them, but to others, it’s embarrassing and frustrating. People aren’t fooled — they feel it.

“People aren’t fooled by fantasy. They feel it.”

Why This Happens

• Desire for recognition or attention.
• Lack of social awareness or experience.
• Nervous system reward loops: attention and admiration trigger dopamine.
• Living in fantasy as a coping mechanism for insecurity.

The Impact

• Erodes trust and credibility.
• Creates discomfort and stress for those around them.
• Undermines authentic relationships and respect.

What to Do

• Set clear boundaries: focus on facts, not judgment.
• Maintain your own integrity — don’t match exaggeration with exaggeration.
• Protect your emotional space — limit exposure when needed.
• Give feedback when possible, gently but firmly.

Honesty and authenticity aren’t weaknesses — they’re what make you credible and trustworthy.

Stop living in fantasy. Stop expecting others to accept it. Be real. Be grounded. Your credibility, peace, and relationships depend on it.