- Demanding full access to your finances “just in case something happens” is a classic form of control and financial abuse. It’s not normal or caring—it’s about power and being able to manipulate or punish you.
- Attempted strangulation is one of the strongest predictors of future lethal violence in domestic abuse situations. Studies consistently show that if someone has attempted to strangle you once, the risk of escalating physical harm—including homicide—is alarmingly high.
- Having weapons in the home adds an immediate, tangible danger to an already volatile situation. It’s not just hypothetical; it’s a real risk to your safety.
- The pattern here—control over finances, physical violence, and access to weapons—is exactly what domestic abuse specialists and law enforcement take very seriously. The combination signals intent, capability, and opportunity.
What you need to do:
- Get out safely. Plan an escape route, and keep it secret.
- Tell someone you trust—friend, family, or neighbor—about what’s happening.
- Contact local authorities or domestic violence services. They can help with protection orders, safety planning, and emergency support.
- Document everything if safe to do so: threats, strangulation attempts, texts, emails, any proof of controlling behavior. This can be critical for legal protection later.
You cannot negotiate or reason with someone who has escalated to strangulation—your safety comes first. This is not about a “bad moment” or a relationship issue; this is life-threatening behavior.
