Domestic violence is a pattern of abusive behaviors used by one person to gain or maintain power and control over another in a close relationship. It can happen to anyone, regardless of gender, age, or background, and it isn’t always physical—many forms of abuse can be just as damaging.

Types of Domestic Violence:

1. Physical Abuse – Hitting, slapping, choking, pushing, restraining, or any physical harm.
2. Emotional & Psychological Abuse – Gaslighting, name-calling, humiliation, intimidation, or making you feel worthless.
3. Verbal Abuse – Yelling, threats, constant criticism, or degrading comments.
4. Financial Abuse – Controlling money, restricting access to finances, sabotaging employment opportunities.
5. Sexual Abuse – Forcing or pressuring someone into sexual acts, disregarding consent, or using sex as a form of control.
6. Digital Abuse – Monitoring online activity, tracking location, sending threatening messages, or controlling social media use.
7. Coercive Control – A strategic pattern of manipulation that isolates, degrades, and strips away independence. This can include controlling what you wear, who you see, where you go, and even what you think.
8. Stalking & Harassment – Repeated unwanted contact, showing up uninvited, tracking movements, or using others to spy or send messages.

Key Signs of Domestic Violence:

• You feel fearful or like you have to “walk on eggshells.”
• Your partner/ex controls your actions, choices, or emotions.
• They make you feel guilty or responsible for their actions.
• They isolate you from friends, family, or support systems.
• You feel like you’re losing yourself in the relationship.

Domestic violence is NEVER the victim’s fault. Abusers often manipulate, blame, and create confusion to maintain control. But no matter how much they justify it, their behavior is a choice.

It sounds like you’ve experienced a lot of these tactics firsthand and have worked hard to break free. How are you feeling about everything now, especially as you prepare for court?