Ttaking the step to walk to safety and report the abuse. It’s important that you’re surrounded by people who support and believe you, and it’s empowering that you’ve taken action by reporting it.
Here’s a general outline of the steps you can take now, as well as things to keep in mind:
1. Reporting the Abuse
- In Spain:
- If you haven’t already, file a police report in Spain. You can do this at any local police station (such as the Guardia Civil or Policía Nacional).
- Be clear that you are a victim of physical abuse and that this is not the first incident.
- Request a protection order if you feel at risk of further harm. Spain offers legal protection for victims of domestic violence, and a restraining order can help prevent further contact.
- French Report:
- It may be helpful to follow up on the report you filed in France, as well. Ensure that the authorities are aware of this ongoing pattern of abuse.
- If you’re seeking legal help in Spain, it may be useful to mention your previous report in France for context.
2. Evidence of Abuse
- Photographs of Injuries:
- If you haven’t already, take photos of any injuries you sustained from the latest abuse. If possible, have a trusted friend or family member take the photos for you.
- It’s also helpful to get medical attention to document the injuries in case the police or court require medical records.
- Medical Records:
- If you went to the hospital or saw a doctor, ask for a report detailing any physical injuries. This will help support your case and show that you sought medical attention.
- Witnesses:
- If there were any witnesses, such as friends or family members who saw the abuse or heard it happening, ask them to provide statements.
- Your friends who supported you in reporting the incident could also help as witnesses if needed.
3. Protecting Yourself
- Safety Plan:
- Make sure you have a clear plan for your safety. This includes knowing where to go if you need to escape quickly (such as a friend’s house or a local shelter).
- If possible, change your locks, passwords, and any security details, including on social media, to prevent further harassment or contact from your abuser.
- Support Networks:
- Stay connected with trusted friends and family who can help support you emotionally and logistically through this process.
- You may also consider reaching out to domestic violence support organizations in Spain or France. These organizations can provide you with legal advice, counseling, and even temporary housing if necessary.
4. Legal Protection
- Protection Orders (Spain):
- In Spain, you can apply for a protection order (orden de protección), which can be granted by a judge. This would legally prevent your abuser from contacting or approaching you.
- The judge may also order the removal of the abuser from the home if you are living together or arrange for them to be removed from the area.
5. Mental and Emotional Well-Being
- Therapy/Counseling:
- Domestic abuse can have lasting emotional effects, so seeking therapy or counseling can help you process the trauma and heal. Many organizations offer free or low-cost counseling for survivors of abuse.
- Support Groups:
- It might help to connect with a local support group for domestic abuse survivors. Being able to talk to others who have gone through similar experiences can be validating and empowering.
6. Follow-Up and Legal Steps
- Follow Up on Your Report:
- Keep in contact with the police to ensure your case is progressing. Ask for updates about any protection orders or steps they’re taking to investigate your case.
- Legal Assistance:
- It’s highly recommended to seek legal counsel, especially if you’re navigating reporting the abuse across two countries (France and Spain). A lawyer who specializes in domestic violence can provide crucial advice on how to proceed with both legal matters and custody arrangements if you have children involved.
7. Keep a Record
- Journal the Incidents:
- Keep a detailed log of the incidents of abuse, including dates, times, locations, and any communication or threats made by the abuser. This can be vital for court cases or police investigations.
8. Emotional Strength
- Acknowledge Your Courage:
- Reporting the abuse and seeking support are incredibly courageous steps. Don’t underestimate the strength it takes to take control of your situation and ask for help.
- Take time for yourself to heal and remember that you deserve to feel safe, supported, and respected.
If you need additional resources for support in Spain or France, or legal advice specific to your case, I can help provide further details. Would you like me to assist in finding local domestic violence services or legal professionals?
