Self Help

Self-help, when combined with therapy, can be a powerful tool to deepen personal healing, build emotional resilience, and foster long-term mental health growth. Here are some ways to blend self-help strategies with therapeutic work effectively:

1. Journaling for Emotional Processing

Writing down your thoughts, feelings, and experiences can help you clarify what you’re going through. Journaling can act as an emotional release and also provide valuable insights that you can later discuss in therapy. Consider the following methods:

  • Free Writing: Write whatever comes to mind without worrying about structure. This helps in processing unconscious emotions.
  • Prompt-Based Journaling: Use prompts like “What am I feeling right now?” or “What patterns do I notice in my behavior?”
  • Gratitude Journaling: Cultivate a habit of writing about things you’re thankful for, which can shift your mindset toward positivity over time.

2. Mindfulness and Meditation

Mindfulness teaches you to stay present and develop awareness of your thoughts and feelings without judgment. Meditation practices like focused breathing, body scans, or mindful observation can complement therapy by helping you manage stress, anxiety, or overwhelming emotions.

  • Guided Meditations: Apps like Calm or Headspace provide structured sessions that can help you stay on track.
  • Breathwork: Simply focusing on slow, deep breathing can calm your nervous system, which is particularly useful during moments of high emotional intensity.

3. Learning About Your Condition

Becoming more educated about your mental health condition or emotional struggles can empower you. Books, podcasts, or online resources can provide frameworks for understanding what you’re going through.

  • Trauma Recovery Books: Books like The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk or Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving by Pete Walker can offer a deep dive into the mechanisms of trauma and recovery.
  • Emotional Intelligence: Daniel Goleman’s book Emotional Intelligence can be an excellent resource for understanding how emotions influence our behavior and relationships.

4. Cognitive Behavioral Techniques (CBT)

CBT exercises can help you reframe negative thinking patterns. Some easy-to-implement strategies include:

  • Thought Diaries: Record negative thoughts, challenge their validity, and replace them with more balanced perspectives.
  • Positive Reappraisal: Shift your focus from the negative aspects of a situation to its potential benefits or lessons.

5. Build a Self-Care Routine

Integrating a consistent self-care routine is essential for mental health. Pay attention to:

  • Physical Activity: Regular exercise, even simple walks, can boost your mood by releasing endorphins.
  • Nutrition: Eating balanced meals and staying hydrated can have a positive effect on brain function.
  • Sleep Hygiene: Rest is crucial. Establish a sleep routine to ensure you’re giving your body and mind time to recharge.

6. Set Goals for Therapy

Active participation in your therapy can make the process more productive. Before your sessions, reflect on what you want to achieve:

  • Short-Term Goals: What can you work on in the next week? It could be practicing mindfulness or applying a technique your therapist introduced.
  • Long-Term Goals: These might be emotional resilience, improved relationships, or processing past trauma. Having these in mind can guide the therapy process.

7. Use Positive Affirmations

Repeating affirmations like “I am worthy of love and healing” or “I am capable of overcoming this” can gradually shift your self-image toward one of empowerment.

8. Engage in Creative Outlets

Creativity, whether through art, music, writing, or movement, can be an expressive way to process emotions. Therapies like art therapy or drama therapy often use creative techniques, but you can bring these into your daily life as a personal practice.

9. Track Your Progress

Therapy can sometimes feel slow, so tracking your emotional progress over time can help you see the bigger picture of how much you’ve grown. Whether it’s a mood tracker app, notes from therapy sessions, or personal reflections, observing progress can be motivational.

10. Build a Support Network

While self-help is important, don’t neglect your support system. Whether it’s a trusted friend, family member, or a group of peers going through similar experiences, having a network to share your journey with is vital. Talking about your self-help progress in therapy and getting feedback from your therapist can also strengthen your approach.


Incorporating self-help with therapy is about empowering yourself to take an active role in your healing. While therapy provides professional guidance and deeper insights, self-help strategies allow you to reinforce and apply what you’re learning in real-time. What kinds of strategies are you most drawn to?

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