Many clients ask me how to recognise an abuser. My own story is a painful example—I spent decades in an abusive relationship, cut off from friends and family, convinced for years that it was love. Only when the abuse became physical and uncontrollable did my doctors and psychologist urge me to leave for my own… Read More Medication, Libido, and Abuse: The Neuroscience Behind a Hidden Struggle
Honesty and Transparency: Share what you’re curious about, what you’d like to try, and what your expectations are. Similarly, listen to your partner’s desires and limits, and be sure to respect them. Good communication fosters a sense of trust and respect, making it easier to explore new experiences with comfort and confidence.
Check-Ins: Especially when trying something new, check in with each other during and after the experience. This can be a simple “Are you comfortable?” or “How are you feeling?” as well as a conversation afterward to discuss what worked and what didn’t. These check-ins help to refine the experience and ensure that both parties feel heard and respected.Experimenting Together: You may wish to explore new sexual experiences with a partner. This could include trying new positions, incorporating toys, exploring different forms of roleplay, or experimenting with fantasies. When experimenting, approach it with curiosity and a sense of playfulness, allowing room for mistakes or unexpected outcomes without judgment.
Building Intimacy and Connection: Exploring together isn’t only about sexual acts—it can also deepen emotional intimacy. Exploring new experiences might involve sharing more vulnerable parts of yourself, increasing trust, and enjoying the shared journey of discovery. Engaging in both physical and emotional exploration can lead to a stronger, more connected bond.… Read More Exploring sex and new experiences
If your partner’s behavior doesn’t change despite your efforts, it’s essential to assess the relationship’s viability. Feeling bored or unfulfilled isn’t something to dismiss lightly. However, with mutual effort, most couples can overcome these challenges and create a more exciting, fulfilling sexual connection.
Remember, intimacy is a shared journey. By addressing the issue with love, patience, and mutual respect, you’ll not only tackle the problem at hand but also strengthen your relationship as a whole.… Read More Navigating a Sexually Lazy Partner: Finding Solutions for Intimacy and Connection
Exhibitionism:
The act of exposing one’s genitals to unsuspecting strangers for sexual gratification. The individual derives arousal from the reaction of surprise, fear, or shock.
Voyeurism:
The practice of obtaining sexual pleasure from observing an unsuspecting person who is naked, undressing, or engaged in sexual activity. Consent is absent, making this behavior a violation of privacy.
Pedophilia:
A sexual preference or behavior involving prepubescent children, typically under the age of 13. This is illegal, harmful, and considered a significant societal and psychological concern.
Sexual Masochism:
Arousal derived from experiencing pain, humiliation, or bondage. This behavior becomes problematic when it causes harm or dysfunction or when it becomes compulsive.
Sexual Sadism:
Sexual arousal that stems from inflicting pain, humiliation, or suffering on another person. When performed consensually, it may fall under BDSM practices, but it is problematic if consent is absent.
Transvestic Fetishism:
Sexual arousal associated with wearing clothing traditionally associated with the opposite gender. It is typically seen in heterosexual men and is distinct from gender dysphoria or transgender identity.
Fetishism:
Sexual arousal focused on inanimate objects (e.g., shoes, underwear) or specific body parts not typically associated with sexual arousal (e.g., feet). It becomes diagnosable when it interferes with functioning or relationships.
Frotteurism:
Deriving sexual pleasure from touching or rubbing against a non-consenting individual, often in crowded places. This is non-consensual and constitutes sexual harassment or assault.… Read More Paraphilic behaviors
