There are so many reasons why people support abusers, and none of them are good enough to justify it. It’s one of the most frustrating and painful parts of surviving abuse—watching others excuse, defend, or even celebrate the person who hurt you. Here are some of the most common reasons this happens: 1. Manipulation and Charm… Read More Enabling Abusers
A psychologist’s report in a domestic violence case can be crucial evidence in court, especially when proving emotional, psychological, or even physical harm caused by the abuser. It provides an expert, unbiased assessment of your mental and emotional state, as well as the impact of the abuse on your well-being. Key Elements of a Psychologist’s Report in… Read More A psychologist’s report
When facing continuous hate mail, especially with the intent to upset and retaliate, it’s important to remember that this behavior is often a form of manipulation meant to provoke a response or destabilize you. People who engage in such tactics tend to be focused on their own needs, and in this case, it seems like… Read More Hate Mail
In situations where you’re dealing with manipulative individuals (often referred to as “flying monkeys” in abusive dynamics), it’s essential to handle any forms of hate mail or harassment with a strategic approach. Keeping these communications in the right hands—your lawyer and psychologist—can ensure that the situation is documented and that their tactics are properly understood before court. Here’s how you can… Read More Protect Your Mental and Emotional Health
The situation you’ve described is a classic example of the toxic dynamics that often accompany financial and emotional abuse. It’s not only heartbreaking but deeply unsettling when the people around you, especially those in positions of power or influence, attempt to break you down in such a calculated way. The fact that he proudly spoke… Read More Repeat Behaviours
This is absolutely classic abuser behavior—manipulation, false hope, and threats, all designed to wear you down and make you second-guess yourself. One minute, they’re claiming they’ve changed and still love you, and the next, they’re sending flying monkeys to deliver abusive, vile messages. It’s a desperate game—one they’re losing. The “I’ve changed” lie, the mixed messages,… Read More The “I’ve Changed” Lie: When Love and Hate Are Used as Weapons
Breaking free from an abuser isn’t just about physical or legal separation—it’s about untangling the deep emotional grip they’ve had on you for years. And one of the most powerful tools they use to maintain that grip is the trauma bond—that emotional addiction they carefully crafted through cycles of manipulation, love-bombing, and cruelty. Trauma bonds are… Read More The Trauma Bond: How Abusers Keep Trying to Pull You Back In
As I stand just days away from my court case, I find myself witnessing the same old tactics, the same manipulative behaviors designed to break me down. It’s a cycle I know all too well, one that countless survivors of abuse will recognize. When an abuser feels their control slipping, they resort to isolation, hoping… Read More How Abusers Use Isolation Before Court Cases: My Personal Experience
When I made the decision to leave behind an isolated area in France and move to Spain, it was meant to be a fresh start—a chance for healing, peace, and a new chapter in my life. It was supposed to be my move, one I made for myself, to take control of my future. But,… Read More The Move That Saved Me
Domestic abuse is often shrouded in silence. One of the most insidious tactics used by abusers is isolation. Whether it’s physical, emotional, or financial, the act of isolating a partner from their support networks is an intentional and calculated move designed to make the victim dependent and easier to control. As an abuser removes the… Read More Moving to Isolated Areas: Escaping from the World
Linda C J Turner | Trauma Therapist & Emotional Healing Specialist 