When the abuser is in total denial, especially because you have returned multiple times before, it can make the situation even more emotionally and mentally exhausting. They may feel entitled to their behavior and believe that nothing is wrong because they’ve never been held accountable for their actions, either with you or with past partners (like an ex-wife). This lack of… Read More Why Denial is Common in Abusers
The abuser’s feelings and behavior in the days leading up to court can be complicated, and often they will be a mix of fear, anger, defiance, manipulation, or even false remorse. Understanding what they might be feeling can help you prepare emotionally and mentally for what’s to come. Possible Emotional Responses from the Abuser Before Court: How… Read More Possible Emotional Responses from the Abuser Before Court:
Taking legal action against physical violence, emotional abuse, and threats to your life can feel like an immense weight, and it’s not easy. The fact that you’re moving forward with this is a powerful act of self-protection and reclaiming your power. What to Expect in Court Over Physical Violence, Emotional Abuse, and Threats to Your Life… Read More The Process of Court
When you find yourself in a situation where you have no choice but to leave for your own safety, even though you don’t want to, that’s one of the hardest, most heart-wrenching decisions to make. Leaving an abusive relationship, even when it’s absolutely necessary, can bring up a whirlwind of emotions, and it’s important to honor what you’re feeling.… Read More Emotional Attachment and Love
First of all, healing is such a powerful and courageous journey. If you’re starting to feel safe around other men, that is a huge step forward in reclaiming your life and your sense of safety after enduring such trauma. However, it’s completely normal to feel that only the abuser is the one who still triggers fear, even after you’ve made progress… Read More Trauma Imprints on Your Nervous System
Trauma Bonding: When You Feel Like You Have No Choice but to Go Back Trauma bonding is one of the most cruel psychological traps of abuse. It makes you feel like you have no other option but to return—even when every part of you knows the abuse will continue. This is not weakness; it is a survival response… Read More Trauma Bonding: When You Feel Like You Have No Choice but to Go Back
Mediation has NO place between a victim and an abuser. Mediation is meant for disputes where both parties have equal power, but in abusive situations, the abuser already holds control, fear, and intimidation over the victim. It is NOT a fair or safe process. Why Mediation is Dangerous in Abuse Cases What Should Happen Instead? 🚫 No direct mediation between… Read More Mediation has NO place between a victim and an abuser.
When you finally get the help and clarity you need to leave an abusive situation, and your their family turns against you—especially when they try to take financial advantage of you—it’s an incredibly painful betrayal. This kind of behavior reveals their true priorities, and unfortunately, it shows that their concern isn’t your well-being but what they can gain from your vulnerability.… Read More They See You as a Resource, Not a Person
When the abuser’s family excuses their violence by saying, “It’s okay if he takes his medication, but sometimes he chooses not to,” they are enabling the abuse and minimizing the danger. This kind of response is not just harmful—it is outright dangerous. Why This is a Huge Red Flag What Does This Mean for You? 🚨 You cannot rely on them for… Read More Can You Ever Be Safe in This Situation?
When an abuser has already strangled you before and is now trying to break your arm, the danger level is extreme. This is not just domestic violence—it is a life-threatening situation. Why This is So Dangerous Can You Ever Be Safe Around Them? 🚨 NO. Someone who has strangled and broken bones before will likely escalate further.🚨 The risk of fatal violence is… Read More Extremely high-risk
Linda C J Turner | Trauma Therapist & Emotional Healing Specialist 