Understanding from a Psychological and Neuroscience Perspective By Linda C J Turner, Therapist & Advocate In the realm of psychology and neuroscience, understanding the behaviors of someone who intentionally seeks to harm another mentally, emotionally, and even physically is crucial. Often, these individuals engage in abusive behaviors with the intention of breaking down their victim’s… Read More The Mindset of Someone Who Aims to Destroy You
By Linda C J Turner, Therapist & Advocate Divorce is often one of the most emotionally charged and stressful experiences in a person’s life. During such a vulnerable time, emotional blackmail can be used as a manipulative tactic to gain control and unbalance the individual. When threats of legal action, the implication that friends or… Read More Emotional Blackmail in Divorce: How Manipulators Use Legal Threats and Social Pressure to Gain the Upper Hand
By Linda C J Turner, Therapist & Advocate When you’re caught in an abusive relationship, the mentality of the abuser can be just as harmful as the abuse itself. It’s not just the physical, emotional, or financial control they exert, but the underlying psychology and neuroscience that shape their behavior. I’ve lived through this first-hand,… Read More Understanding the Abuser’s Mentality: A Neuroscience and Psychological Perspective
By Linda C J Turner, Therapist & Advocate In my therapy work, and in everyday life, I often come across the concept of projection. It’s one of the most common—yet often misunderstood—psychological mechanisms we experience, and it can have a significant impact on our relationships, our healing, and our self-understanding. So let’s take a moment to… Read More Projection in Psychology: A Mirror of the Unseen Self
By Linda C J Turner Therapy Abuse is not just an event — it’s a pattern. A cycle. A wound that often repeats itself across time, generations, and relationships, unless it’s consciously interrupted. Breaking this cycle takes more than leaving a situation; it requires reclaiming power, rewriting inner narratives, and rebuilding a deep sense of… Read More Breaking the Cycle of Abuse: A Psychological Perspective on Healing and Empowerment
Understanding the Psychological Consequences of Having Your Reality RewrittenBy Linda C J Turner Therapy “When someone controls the way you see the world, they control the way you see yourself.” In the shadowy world of emotional and psychological abuse, there is one form of control that is particularly chilling: perspecticide. Unlike overt violence, perspecticide is quiet.… Read More The Impact of Perspecticide: Reclaiming Reality After Emotional Erosion
A Psychological Perspective for Survivors and AdvocatesBy Linda C J Turner Therapy “You can’t heal in the same environment that broke you. But you can understand it — and finally set yourself free.” In the complex world of emotional abuse, one of the most disorienting realities for survivors is that many abusers genuinely believe they are… Read More “They Don’t Think They’re the Problem”: Why Many Emotionally Abusive People See Themselves as the Victim
You did not cause their behavior.You could not have prevented it.And it is not your job to heal them. Abuse—whether emotional, physical, verbal, or psychological—is always a choice, no matter what pain or past the abuser may carry. There is no excuse. Only context. And context does not excuse cruelty. 🧠 So Why Don’t Abusers… Read More 💔 First, Let’s Say This Loudly:
The Eyes Are Telling You More Than Words Ever Could: The Psychology of Deep Eye Contact We’ve all heard the saying “look into their eyes”, but how often do we really see someone when we do? In the rush of conversation, it’s easy to focus on words, gestures, or even distractions around us. But the real connection—one that… Read More “The eyes are the window to the soul”
Whether it’s messages, photos, call logs, or app activity—if the content could be important for legal, safety, or emotional closure reasons—you’ll want to proceed in a way that is both legally sound and emotionally wise. ✅ The Correct Way to Handle It: 1. Preserve the Evidence (Immediately) 2. Document Everything 3. Speak to a Professional 4. Use Digital Forensics if… Read More 📱 When You Find New Evidence on a Mobile Phone:
Linda C J Turner | Trauma Therapist & Emotional Healing Specialist 