Here’s a sample letter you could adapt if you decide to report the discovery to the police.(You can edit it to fit your exact situation.) 📄 Sample Letter to Police Reporting Discovery of Degrading Pornography by Abuser [Your Name][Your Address][City, Postcode][Phone Number][Email Address][Date] To:[Officer’s Name, if known][Police Department Name][Police Department Address] Dear Officer [Name or… Read More Sample Letter 1
The short answer is: Yes, very often they do.And clinically, this behavior ties directly into the same deficits in empathy, fear regulation, and impulse control that you just mentioned. Let’s go deeper into the psychology and neuroscience behind it: 1. Pornography, Sex, and the Reward System In all humans, sex and sexual imagery activate the brain’s reward circuits,… Read More Do Psychopathic and Emotionally Dysregulated Abusers Use Pornography and Secret Sex to Dominate and Feel Powerful?
Intimate-partner or familial abusers who drag family members into the abuse exhibit a particularly malicious pattern of control. These abusers often derive psychological “satisfaction” from others’ suffering – literally getting a reward from expanded dominance and humiliation. Clinically, this behavior is linked to certain personality and brain traits. For example, people with Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) or… Read More Understanding the Cruel Mind of an Abuser Involving Family Members
By Linda C J Turner, Therapist & Advocate Abuse isn’t always physical—it can be psychological, manipulative, and designed to break a person down slowly over time. An abuser knows exactly when and how to strike, often choosing significant dates to deliver their best performance. Birthdays, Christmas, or other meaningful moments are often picked, perhaps to… Read More The Resilience of Survival: Breaking Free from Emotional Terrorism
Leaving an abusive relationship is often painted as the “happy ending” in movies and stories — a moment of triumph when the survivor is met with open arms, compassion, and support.But in reality, for many survivors, the journey after leaving can feel even more brutal and isolating than the relationship itself. One of the toughest,… Read More The Hard Truth: Why You Can’t Expect Honesty or Empathy When Leaving an Abusive Relationship
By Linda C J Turner, Therapist & Advocate Today, my daughter and I shared a long, emotional, and beautiful conversation — the kind of conversation we used to only dream about. We talked about the impact of controlling relationships and how deeply they had shaped our thinking without us even realizing it at times. For… Read More Healing Together: Learning to Live Freely Again After Control and Abuse
By Linda C J Turner, Therapist & Advocate Spoiling Yourself with Cosmetic Surgery and Aesthetic Treatments After Abuse Isn’t Wrong When someone survives emotional, physical, or psychological abuse, the scars they carry are often much deeper than those visible to the outside world. Healing after abuse is a deeply personal journey, and it involves not… Read More A Psychological Perspective on Reclaiming Self-Worth
By Linda C J Turner, Therapist & Advocate When the people we love most—those we welcomed into our family—turn away at our darkest hour, the wound runs deep. Reaching back into that same relationship, expecting warmth and safety, can feel like stepping into a fresh storm. Here’s why you can’t—or shouldn’t—go back to stepchildren who showed you… Read More Betrayal Shatters Trust
The Real Reason They Lie About You Why those who’ve hurt us twist the story—and what psychology and neuroscience reveal about it By Linda C J Turner, Therapist & Advocate When “Truth” Becomes Too Painful to Own When someone betrays, abandons, or emotionally harms you, they’re confronted with a choice: All too often, they choose… Read More The Real Reason They Lie About You
There is something profoundly sacred about waking up in the morning and knowing — truly knowing — that you are free. Free to make your own choices.Free to move, to breathe, to live without needing permission.Free to see the people you love without fear, judgment, or restriction. For those who have lived under the crushing weight of… Read More Freedom After Control: Reclaiming the Life You Always Deserved
Linda C J Turner | Trauma Therapist & Emotional Healing Specialist 