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🧠 “I Know It’s Bad, But I Still Feel Attached…”

By Linda C J Turner, Therapist & Advocate — Linda C J Turner Trauma Therapist | Neuroscience & Emotional Intelligence Practitioner | Advocate for Women’s Empowerment ©Linda C J Turner

Understanding & Healing Cognitive Dissonance in Abusive Relationships One of the most perplexing and painful experiences for survivors of abuse is the mental tug-of-war that happens long after the bruises fade. You know the relationship is harmful.You know you’re not safe.And yet… part of you still misses them, still loves them, or doubts yourself. This inner conflict isn’t weakness—it’s cognitive dissonance.… Read More 🧠 “I Know It’s Bad, But I Still Feel Attached…”

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💔✨ “He Moved On So Fast…” – The Psychology of the Abuser’s Instant ‘Love’ and the Victim’s Ruin

One of the most soul-crushing moments for survivors of abuse comes after the escape—watching the abuser seemingly move on overnight. There they are:💎 Proclaiming undying love to someone new💸 Lavishing them with gifts and holidays📱 Dripping with romance and charm…while you’re left picking up the broken pieces of your finances, your identity, and your nervous system. It feels… Read More 💔✨ “He Moved On So Fast…” – The Psychology of the Abuser’s Instant ‘Love’ and the Victim’s Ruin

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💔 When One Person Carries the Family: The Silent Grief of Watching a Partner Show No Interest in the Grandchildren

For decades, you try. You plan the trips. You book the birthday weekends. You suggest football matches, cinema outings, little getaways to make memories with the grandchildren. You think maybe—just maybe—this time, they’ll come alive. They’ll care. They’ll make the effort. But it never happens—unless you do all the work. And even then, the joy… Read More 💔 When One Person Carries the Family: The Silent Grief of Watching a Partner Show No Interest in the Grandchildren

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Behind Closed Doors: Understanding Secret Sexual Liaisons

In every society, throughout every generation, there have been secret liaisons—romantic or sexual encounters carried out in private, hidden from public view or existing relationships. They are the whispered moments, the unread messages, the locked doors and stolen time. And while they often stir judgment or fascination, what lies beneath them is far more complex than… Read More Behind Closed Doors: Understanding Secret Sexual Liaisons

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“Abuse Doesn’t Always End When You Walk Away”By Linda C J Turner Therapy

Abuse doesn’t always end when the relationship does. Sometimes, it just takes on a new form—quieter, more covert, and far more insidious. It lurks in the shadows: behind fake accusations made to the courts, whispers to tax authorities, manipulations that turn family members against you, or strategic efforts to sabotage your livelihood. It’s a continuation… Read More “Abuse Doesn’t Always End When You Walk Away”By Linda C J Turner Therapy

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“The Guest Who Always Needed More: When Entitlement Masquerades as Charm”By Linda C J Turner Therapy We’ve all met that guest — the one who, while appearing outwardly polite, expects different food, different treatment, or special arrangements at every gathering. It’s rarely about dietary needs or genuine limitations. Instead, it’s something more subtle — and more damaging.… Read More Entitled

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“One-Sided Transactional Relationships: When Love Becomes a Currency of Control”

“He never paid for anything for my children. I paid from my own savings, always reminded to ‘use my own money.’ He resented the time I gave them. When my daughter visited, she hired her own car, paid for everything—even him. Meanwhile, he was rewriting wills in secret, calculating percentages, planning who got what like… Read More “One-Sided Transactional Relationships: When Love Becomes a Currency of Control”

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Why Abusers Become More Vindictive After You Leave: A Psychological Perspective

One of the most perplexing and distressing experiences for survivors of abuse is the behaviour of their abuser afterthey’ve left the relationship. You might expect that walking away—finally setting yourself free—would be the end. But instead, many survivors find themselves targeted in new and insidious ways: smear campaigns, financial sabotage, false accusations, and attempts to undermine… Read More Why Abusers Become More Vindictive After You Leave: A Psychological Perspective

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