When someone always wants sex when you have visitors, it’s often not about physical desire—it’s about control, power, and psychological manipulation. This behavior can have deep emotional and psychological roots, and it’s important to recognize what might be happening. Possible Reasons Behind This Behavior 1. Control & Domination Some people use sex as a way to assert control over… Read More Control & Domination
Life has a way of teaching us lessons—sometimes the hard way. For those who have endured relationships with manipulative and controlling individuals, the scars run deep, but so does the wisdom that follows. If there’s one lesson to be learned, it’s this: do your homework, research their history, and always keep your finances secure. It’s all… Read More A Cautionary Tale: Protecting Yourself from Manipulative Partners
Vindictiveness is such a destructive trait, yet some people seem to thrive on it. So why do they do it? What’s the point? What do they actually gain from it? 1. Control and Power For people like your ex-husband, vindictiveness is a tool to maintain dominance. If they feel like they’re losing control, they lash out to regain… Read More Vindictiveness
Facing the Reality of Discovering Your Partner is Gay After Decades of Marriage… Read More Facing the Reality of Discovering Your Partner is Gay After Decades of Marriage
How This Affects Intimacy in the Marriage… Read More How This Affects Intimacy in the Marriage
I’ve encountered this situation before—both in personal stories shared by others and in psychological discussions about relationships where one partner might be struggling with their identity. It can be a profound realization, one that reshapes how you view the past and explains many behaviors that once seemed confusing, hurtful, or inconsistent.
When someone is in denial about their sexuality or feels pressured to conform to societal or familial expectations, they may unconsciously act in ways that protect their secret, even at the expense of their partner’s emotional well-being. This can manifest as:
Emotional distance or detachment – They may have struggled to fully connect, as they weren’t living authentically.
Lack of intimacy – This could include avoidance, excuses, or even frustration around physical closeness.
Irritability, resentment, or manipulation – If they were struggling internally, they might have redirected those feelings onto you, making you feel like you were the problem.
Gaslighting or blame-shifting – To avoid confronting their own truth, they might have subtly made you question yourself instead.
Seeking external validation – Some in this situation become overly focused on their image, friendships, or external distractions to compensate for the void in the relationship.
If you’ve come to this realization, it makes sense that things suddenly feel clearer. You might feel a mix of emotions—validation, sadness, relief, frustration, or even compassion for them. It’s a complex situation, especially if they were never honest with themselves or you.… Read More Struggling with Identity
Sometimes, it’s also about the bigger picture—recognizing that when someone from the other side (family or not) is pushing so hard for a decision to be made, it may reflect their own unresolved issues, perceptions, or even an attempt to control the situation for their own peace of mind. Their motives may not align with yours, and that’s important to keep in mind.… Read More Intrusive and controlling
In some cases, the person may have been waiting for an exit, perhaps even subconsciously, for a long time. They may have known the relationship was no longer fulfilling or meaningful for them but lacked the courage or motivation to take that first step toward ending it. Instead, they waited for the situation to reach a tipping point where the decision was essentially made for them. This kind of passivity can be the result of various factors: fear of confrontation, emotional exhaustion, or perhaps even a desire to avoid feeling responsible for the end of something that has lasted for decades.… Read More No Resistance
Financial Deception in Relationships: When Money Hiding Signals a Bigger Betrayal… Read More Financial Deception in Relationships: When Money Hiding Signals a Bigger Betrayal
This is a phrase we hear often, but I believe it’s more nuanced than that. While self-love certainly makes it easier to love and be loved in a healthy way, it’s not a strict prerequisite for feeling love. People who struggle with self-worth can and do love others deeply—parents love their children, friends care for each other, and romantic partners can form strong bonds even when one or both have unresolved struggles.
However, the quality of love we give and accept is often tied to how we feel about ourselves. When we don’t love ourselves:
We may tolerate unhealthy relationships – If we don’t believe we deserve better, we might settle for relationships that are damaging, manipulative, or one-sided.
We may love from a place of fear rather than security – Instead of loving freely, we might seek validation, cling to relationships out of fear of being alone, or constantly question whether we are “enough.”
We may struggle to receive love fully – If we don’t believe we’re worthy, we might push away love when it’s given to us, doubting sincerity or feeling unworthy of kindness and care.
On the flip side, when we cultivate self-love, we set healthier boundaries, choose partners who respect us, and allow love to be something that complements us rather than something we depend on to fill a void.
So, while love is still possible without self-love, the experience of love—both giving and receiving—is so much richer when it comes from a place of self-acceptance and inner peace.
What are your though… Read More Self Love
