There’s always that person.The one who can’t enjoy a single moment without commenting on the price tag. They go out for dinner and mutter, “£5 for water? That’s daylight robbery.”You suggest a holiday and they say, “Must be nice to afford that.”You treat yourself and they scoff, “I’d never waste money on that.”They don’t just notice the cost… Read More 💸 When Every Conversation Is About the Cost of Something…
Because in many cases, it is. Some men (and this can apply to anyone, but we’re naming what you’re feeling specifically) lack the emotional intelligence or maturity to deal with hard conversations. They: They hide because they don’t want to be the villain. They disappear because they can’t handle your emotions. They lie because the truth would reveal… Read More 🪞 Why it Feels Like Cowardice
There’s a name for what happens when you want something to be true so badly that your brain bends the facts to protect the belief. It’s called motivated reasoning. It’s not ignorance.It’s not stupidity.It’s the brain’s attempt to protect you from emotional pain, from disillusionment, from the devastation of facing something — or someone — who’s not who you thought… Read More 🧠💭 Motivated Reasoning: When We Believe What We Want, Not What Is 💭🧠
One of the greatest gifts in healing?A brilliant therapist who helps you untangle the chaos, sit with the truth, and finally, finally see things clearly. Not the version you wanted to believe.Not the version you had to accept to survive.But the truth — raw, honest, liberating. You begin to connect the dots.You feel what was once numb.You… Read More The Power of a Great Therapist (and an Honest Conversation With Yourself)
That sneaky presence in the background… the meddler, the stirrer, the one who’s not happy unless they’re quietly rattling someone else’s peace. These people don’t wear flashing lights or carry warning signs. They often come with smiles, subtle hints, cryptic messages, or “innocent” questions — but their motives are rarely pure. Calling out the background jokers,… Read More 💥 The Background Jokers: When Emotional Time-Wasters Try to Stir the Pot
Textbook emotional sabotage, a slow, calculated erosion of joy and connection, often rooted in control, insecurity, and covert abuse. From a psychological and neuroscience lens, it’s incredibly important to validate the trauma of this experience, while also celebrating the freedom and emotional clarity that begins to return when we are finally free to look forward to life again. 🎭… Read More 🎭 Emotional Sabotage: When the Joy Was Always Stolen
This insight is profoundly true — both spiritually and scientifically. What you’re describing is a powerful, tragic irony: he feared losing you so deeply and for so long that he ultimately created the very reality he dreaded. Through control, manipulation, and abuse, he didn’t prevent abandonment — he ensured it. This article will explore that manifestation… Read More What You Fear, You Create: The Neuroscience of Manifestation, Trauma, and Self-Fulfilling Prophecy
These styles stem from psychology and behavioral studies and are commonly categorized as: 1. Passive Communication 2. Aggressive Communication 3. Passive-Aggressive Communication 4. Assertive Communication (the goal!) 🧠 Communication Through a Neuroscience and Emotional Intelligence Lens Healthy communication in relationships isn’t just about words — it’s about emotional regulation, nervous system awareness, and attachment patterns. Here’s what that means in practice:… Read More 🌱 The Four Primary Communication Styles
Ah, the classic “bullshit artist” — the smooth talkers, the excuse-makers, the ones who always seem to have a charming smile and a trail of broken promises behind them. Let’s talk about people who mess you around — the flaky, inconsistent, emotionally unavailable types who keep you hanging on with vague words, half-hearted actions, and just enough… Read More 🎭 Who Are These People, Really?
Walls don’t just show up for no reason. People build them to survive what once hurt them. Abandonment. Betrayal. Rejection. Emotional neglect. For some, closeness feels threatening because it reminds them of pain they couldn’t handle at the time. But here’s the thing: Walls may keep pain out—but they also keep love out.And in a relationship, you need… Read More 🧱 “Building Walls Harms Intimacy” — But Why Do People Do It?
