You Deserve More

When you are loved for what you do rather than who you are, it can feel like your very essence is being overlooked or minimized. You become more of a utility than a partner, and that can lead to feelings of emotional exhaustion, disillusionment, and even resentment. Over time, this dynamic erodes self-esteem, because your contributions and presence are seen as expendable or conditional. You might start to believe that your worth is tied only to your ability to fulfill others’ needs, but that’s a distortion of the truth.… Read More You Deserve More

Something for Nothing

For those who seem hopelessly caught up in their opportunistic ways, it can be helpful to recognize that their behavior often stems from a lack—be it emotional, moral, or experiential. That doesn’t excuse the behavior, but it can provide context and perhaps soften the frustration they cause. Sometimes, modeling respect and gratitude might plant a seed of awareness in them, though it’s not guaranteed.… Read More Something for Nothing

The Arrogant, Judgmental, and Controlling Personality: Understanding and Managing Their Behavior

Dealing with someone who is arrogant, judgmental, and controlling can be deeply frustrating and emotionally draining. These traits often manifest as an inflated sense of self-importance, an obsession with criticizing others, and a desire to micromanage situations and relationships. While such behavior might stem from insecurity or fear, its impact on others can be significant, often leading to strained relationships and feelings of resentment.… Read More The Arrogant, Judgmental, and Controlling Personality: Understanding and Managing Their Behavior

Strength

Instead of fearing failure or seeing it as a setback, you now view it as a necessary step toward growth. You understand that mistakes are opportunities to learn and that failure is not the end but a point of refinement. This shift in perspective helps you keep moving forward, even when faced with challenges. It’s normal for this realization to unfold gradually, often as you look back on how far you’ve come. It’s like discovering layers of yourself that you didn’t know were there—strengths you didn’t even recognize until you encountered something that demanded them. And when you do realize how much stronger you are, it feels less like a sudden surge of power and more like a steady, quiet confidence that you carry with you every day. It’s humbling and inspiring, and it marks the beginning of new possibilities in your life.… Read More Strength

Mobile Phone Hacking

Monitoring communications, knowing all passwords, and secretly accessing your phone may indicate controlling tendencies that go beyond insecurity. In cases where such behavior is part of a larger pattern of control or manipulation, it’s worth being cautious and observing if it extends into other areas of your life.

Relationships that slide into coercive control can become very unhealthy, and it may be helpful to consider individual counseling as a place to explore how you feel and understand whether you’re comfortable with the dynamic.… Read More Mobile Phone Hacking

Freedom is such a powerful word

Freedom is such a powerful word—so much more than a state of being; it’s an experience, an internal release that unfolds when you let go of the “shackles” that have held you back. Whether those shackles come in the form of others’ expectations, past traumas, or self-imposed limitations, breaking free from them brings a sense of control and peace that’s deeply transformative.… Read More Freedom is such a powerful word

Dealing with the Judgment of Others

In the case where people are nice to their face but harbor resentment or disdain, the person who has wronged someone might feel exposed. They may suspect that their wrongs are being silently acknowledged, which can be deeply uncomfortable. However, not deflecting blame or making excuses can give them a sense of integrity, even if others are still upset with them.… Read More Dealing with the Judgment of Others