The Real Reason They Lie About You Why those who’ve hurt us twist the story—and what psychology and neuroscience reveal about it By Linda C J Turner, Therapist & Advocate When “Truth” Becomes Too Painful to Own When someone betrays, abandons, or emotionally harms you, they’re confronted with a choice: All too often, they choose… Read More The Real Reason They Lie About You
By Linda C J Turner, Therapist & Advocate When a narcissist experiences the end of a relationship — whether by choice or because their manipulation was finally exposed — they don’t grieve the way most people do. They don’t reflect, grow, or feel regret. Instead, they hunt. For a narcissist, the end of one relationship signals… Read More “The Hidden Hunt: How Narcissists Target Widows and Divorcees for Financial Exploitation”
By Linda C J Turner, Therapist & Advocate For most of us, holidays and birthdays are meant to be joyful—a time of connection, family, food, laughter, and love. But for those living with an emotionally or psychologically abusive partner—especially one displaying Dark Triadtraits—these “special days” can become emotional minefields. Instead of joy, they bring anxiety. Instead… Read More 🐣 When Holidays Hurt: The Neuroscience of Dark Triad Personalities and the Pain They Inflict on Special Occasions
By Linda C J Turner, Therapist & AdvocatePsychological Insight into the Unmasking of Covert Narcissists In the world of covert narcissism, image is everything. Unlike their overt counterparts who often display grandiosity openly, covert narcissists cloak their manipulation behind a carefully curated mask of humility, victimhood, or saint-like selflessness. To the outside world, they may… Read More 🌪️ Exposing an Abuser: The Shattered Image of Perfection
Whether it’s messages, photos, call logs, or app activity—if the content could be important for legal, safety, or emotional closure reasons—you’ll want to proceed in a way that is both legally sound and emotionally wise. ✅ The Correct Way to Handle It: 1. Preserve the Evidence (Immediately) 2. Document Everything 3. Speak to a Professional 4. Use Digital Forensics if… Read More 📱 When You Find New Evidence on a Mobile Phone:
Denial, Denial, Denial: How Abusers and Their Families Silence the Truth For decades, I have witnessed a pattern of behavior that repeats itself like a broken record—denial, silence, and sweeping everything under the carpet. It has taken years for me to fully recognize the tactics used to cover up abuse, but now, looking back, everything… Read More Denial, Denial, Denial: How Abusers and Their Families Silence the Truth
Have you ever encountered someone so wrapped up in their own self-importance that they seem completely oblivious to how others perceive them? Their arrogance is astonishing, their delusion breathtaking, and their lack of self-awareness almost comical—if it weren’t so infuriating. These individuals glide through life under the illusion that their behavior is entirely acceptable, largely… Read More The Arrogance of the Unaware: When Delusion Meets Entitlement
Understanding Aggressive Communication: Characteristics, Impact, and Consequences Aggressive communication is a style of interaction where a person asserts their rights, thoughts, and feelings in a way that is inappropriate and violates the rights of others. It is often characterized by dominance, intimidation, and hostility, leaving the recipient feeling belittled, attacked, or devalued. While aggressive communication… Read More Understanding Aggressive Communication: Characteristics, Impact, and Consequences
Head Games: The Psychological Manipulation of an Abusive Partner In the realm of emotional and psychological abuse, one of the most insidious tactics is the use of mind games, or what my psychologist calls “head fuckery.” This is the deliberate, calculated manipulation designed to confuse, undermine, and control a partner. It creates a toxic cycle… Read More Head Fuckery
This Is Not Love: A Tactic of Control, Punishment, and Abuse Love is not meant to feel like betrayal, manipulation, and financial devastation. Yet, when an abusive partner senses they are losing control, they often unleash a relentless campaign of punishment disguised as heartbreak. If you have experienced the following, know this: this is not love.… Read More This is NOT love
Linda C J Turner | Trauma Therapist & Emotional Healing Specialist 