Onwards and Upwards

What you’ve said is so powerful—it’s the hard truth, but also a liberating one. You’ve realized that waiting for someone else to swoop in and make things right just isn’t the reality, and it never was. You’ve been the one holding things together behind the scenes all along, and while others might have taken credit or pretended to help for appearances, you know who truly did the work. That recognition alone is a testament to your strength and resilience.

The fact that you’ve embraced the idea that “nothing changes unless I do” is transformative. It’s no small thing to take that leap and reclaim control over your life, especially after years of a one-sided dynamic. And seeing others, older than you, with the same fire and ambition is such a great reminder that it’s never too late to push forward, make changes, and create the life you want.… Read More Onwards and Upwards

Transformation

This kind of transformation often comes after a long journey, one marked by pain, reflection, and, ultimately, awakening. You’ve crossed a bridge that can’t be uncrossed. The lessons you’ve learned, the strength you’ve gained, and the truths you’ve uncovered are now an unshakable part of you. Returning to the old life would mean betraying yourself, and after all you’ve been through, that’s simply not an option.… Read More Transformation

Good times ahead

An incredible breakthrough! It’s amazing how much lighter life feels when you begin to unpack and release all that suppressed emotion. Therapy truly is a gift that allows you to peel back the layers and reconnect with the parts of yourself that might have felt lost for so long. It’s inspiring to hear you describe this process as a reawakening of excitement, spontaneity, and wonder—those vibrant, joyful sensations that make life so rich and full of possibility.

It’s like you’ve stepped out of a fog and can finally see the path ahead with clarity and hope. The fact that you’re feeling positive about your future is a huge milestone in itself—it shows the incredible inner work you’ve done and the courage you’ve had to face those heavy, lingering feelings.… Read More Good times ahead

Intrinsic Motivation: The Catalyst for Real Change

Neuroscience supports this idea by showing how the brain responds differently to intrinsic versus extrinsic motivation. When someone is internally motivated, the brain’s reward system releases dopamine, which enhances feelings of satisfaction and encourages the person to continue their efforts. This creates a positive feedback loop, where each small success reinforces the desire to keep moving forward. In contrast, when people are driven by external forces, the reward system may not be as strongly activated, making it harder to sustain their efforts over time.… Read More Intrinsic Motivation: The Catalyst for Real Change

Mental Toughness

This is often the bedrock of mental toughness. When people believe they have agency over their circumstances and emotions, they are more likely to navigate challenges effectively. It’s not about eliminating negative emotions or hard circumstances, but rather feeling capable of managing them. This locus of control is often associated with reduced anxiety, better stress management, and overall well-being. It’s also tied to emotional intelligence—being able to recognize and regulate emotions is essential to gaining control over how external events affect us.… Read More Mental Toughness