Tag: #Linda Turner – Recovery Coach

When Connection Becomes Conditional: Dealing with Adult Children Who Only Care About the Inheritance

Hurt and Disappointment
Parents invest years of love, guidance, and support into raising their children, and discovering that this may not be reciprocated can be heartbreaking. There is a natural expectation that the parent-child bond will transcend financial considerations, so feeling like an “asset” rather than a person is a deep emotional wound.

Self-Doubt and Second-Guessing
Many parents in this situation start to question their parenting: Did I do something wrong? Did I somehow encourage this entitlement? It’s common to feel guilt, wondering if there were actions, however unintended, that led to this outcome.

Anger and Resentment
Anger is also a natural response, as parents may feel that their children’s behavior is selfish and disrespectful. The relationship, once based on love, can feel polluted by greed and calculation, leading to feelings of resentment and even a desire to distance oneself emotionally.… Read More When Connection Becomes Conditional: Dealing with Adult Children Who Only Care About the Inheritance

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The Web of Financial Betrayal: When an Entire Family Consents to the Deceit

Financial betrayal by one person is painful enough. But when an entire family consents to and participates in a scheme to siphon your resources, it transforms the nature of the deceit. Instead of a single act of dishonesty, it becomes a sustained manipulation, a system designed to keep you in the dark, dependent, and financially vulnerable.

Why would a group engage in this behavior? In some cases, it stems from a deep-seated entitlement, where they believe they deserve financial security at your expense. They may rationalize this behavior by thinking they’re “protecting their own” or securing their future, even if it means dishonesty. Often, families who engage in collective deceit hold a shared, distorted narrative: that their actions are justified by some perceived slight or by the idea that “outsiders” like you are disposable. They may even act as though you “owe” them—whether for the support they provided, family loyalty, or some other invented reason to excuse their actions.

In families where financial manipulation is normalized, deceit can become a familiar tactic, passed down like a perverse inheritance. To them, it may not feel wrong; rather, it’s simply the way things are done. This dynamic is especially potent if they reinforce each other’s actions, stifling any ethical doubts and reaffirming their loyalty to “family first,” even if it comes at your cost.… Read More The Web of Financial Betrayal: When an Entire Family Consents to the Deceit

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When Trust Is Broken: The Heartache of Financial Deceit and the Path to Recovery

Financial betrayal is one of the most insidious forms of abuse because it’s often hidden until the damage is done. The partner engaging in this behavior may lie about their financial situation, drain shared resources, or even justify their actions by vilifying their victim to friends or family. This goes beyond simple dishonesty; it is a calculated form of control that can leave the victim isolated, without the financial or emotional security they thought they had.

Money is a sensitive and powerful element in relationships. For many, sharing finances is a sign of unity, trust, and planning for a shared future. So, when one partner actively siphons money away under a false pretense, they undermine not only financial stability but also the essence of that partnership. It leaves the betrayed partner grappling with questions: How long has this been happening? How much has been taken? How could they be so cold and calculated?… Read More When Trust Is Broken: The Heartache of Financial Deceit and the Path to Recovery

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Lack of Emotional Regulation and Emotional Intelligence

At the heart of a lot of abusive behaviors is a need for power and control. Some men feel that they need to assert dominance in their relationships to maintain a sense of control. This need can stem from various issues, including low self-esteem, past trauma, or a belief that their masculinity is tied to being in charge. Unfortunately, violence becomes a tool for asserting this control, and in their minds, it’s justified as a means of keeping power within the relationship.… Read More Lack of Emotional Regulation and Emotional Intelligence

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A painfully lopsided relationship

To go through the effort of making yourself presentable, keeping up a beautiful home, contributing to family experiences, and sacrificing personal resources—all to create a life that you both can enjoy—only to have your partner take the credit is both unfair and exhausting. It takes so much emotional strength to persist in this dynamic, especially when there’s a feeling that the family and others have been convinced of a version of events that’s not at all reflective of reality.… Read More A painfully lopsided relationship

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Living with someone who has Antisocial Personality Disorder (ASPD)

For many individuals with ASPD, exploiting others to achieve their goals is a common behavior. This can include taking advantage of loved ones financially, emotionally, or physically. They may be highly charming and persuasive, particularly if they’re motivated to get something they want. In personal relationships, this could look like excessive financial dependence, pressuring you into unfavorable agreements, or even taking advantage of shared resources.

Their tendency to exploit others without guilt or remorse can be particularly damaging because it often takes time to realize the extent of the exploitation. By the time you recognize what’s happening, you may have suffered significant financial, emotional, or social harm, making it harder to leave the relationship or re-establish your own boundaries.… Read More Living with someone who has Antisocial Personality Disorder (ASPD)

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Total Lack of Integrity

Emotional Appeal for Self-Interest: The initial plea for forgiveness and a second chance could be aimed more at getting what they want rather than truly acknowledging the impact of their behavior. When someone makes grand statements about “changing,” then quickly reneges on those promises, it often suggests they are using language as a tool to control or influence you, rather than as a reflection of their true intentions.

Gaslighting and Control: Trying to appeal to your emotions by saying, “I’ve changed” or, “I love you so much,” while their actions prove otherwise, can be a form of gaslighting. It’s as if they’re counting on your emotions to outweigh the practical realities, hoping you’ll be swayed by their words despite their actual behavior.… Read More Total Lack of Integrity

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Contrast between public empathy and private cruelty

This can also deeply affect those who are particularly empathetic or trusting, often leading them to second-guess their own judgments about others. Discovering that someone you thought was kind and empathetic is actually cold and cruel behind closed doors can even lead to feelings of betrayal or trauma, as it forces a person to re-evaluate their own ability to perceive character and intentions accurately.… Read More Contrast between public empathy and private cruelty

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