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Why Trauma Survivors Are Trained to Override Their Intuition

By Linda C J Turner, Therapist & Advocate — Linda C J Turner Trauma Therapist | Neuroscience & Emotional Intelligence Practitioner | Advocate for Women’s Empowerment ©Linda C J Turner

(And Why Unlearning It Is Part of Healing) Trauma survivors don’t ignore their intuition because it’s broken.They ignore it because their nervous system was trained to. Overriding gut feelings is not a personality trait — it’s a survival skill learned under threat. 1. Trauma Punishes Listening to Intuition In abusive or unsafe environments, intuition often says: But… Read More Why Trauma Survivors Are Trained to Override Their Intuition

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What Happens When You Ignore Your Intuition and Go Into Denial

By Linda C J Turner, Therapist & Advocate — Linda C J Turner Trauma Therapist | Neuroscience & Emotional Intelligence Practitioner | Advocate for Women’s Empowerment ©Linda C J Turner

(“My brain knows better” — until it doesn’t) When intuition signals danger and the conscious mind overrides it, the nervous system doesn’t suddenly agree and stand down.It escalates. Denial isn’t calm reasoning — it’s a stress response driven by fear, conditioning, or wishful thinking. Your brain isn’t “being logical”; it’s trying to avoid discomfort, loss, or… Read More What Happens When You Ignore Your Intuition and Go Into Denial

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Never Ignore Your Intuition or Gut Feeling: The Neuroscience Behind Why

Your intuition isn’t magical.It’s biological intelligence. What people call a “gut feeling” is your nervous system processing information faster than conscious thought — and trying to keep you safe. 1. Your Body Detects Threat Before Your Mind Can Explain It The brain receives far more sensory data than you can consciously process.Your amygdala and insular cortex scan for danger, inconsistency, and pattern… Read More Never Ignore Your Intuition or Gut Feeling: The Neuroscience Behind Why

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How to Spot Emotional Freeloading Early

Early emotional freeloading is subtle because it often looks like “need,” “vulnerability,” or “closeness.” The key is pattern, not moments. Early Warning Signs (Usually Appear Together) The Body Test (Very Accurate) Ask yourself after interacting: Your nervous system detects imbalance before your mind names it. Early rule:Healthy people self-regulate and accept support.Emotional freeloaders outsource regulation. 2. How Courts and Abuse… Read More How to Spot Emotional Freeloading Early

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1. Why Kind People Are Targeted by Emotional Freeloaders

Kind people aren’t targeted because they’re weak.They’re targeted because they’re reliable sources of emotional regulation. From a psychology and neuroscience perspective, emotional freeloaders instinctively gravitate toward people who: Your nervous system soothes theirs. The Neuroscience Angle Humans unconsciously seek external regulation when they can’t regulate themselves.If someone lacks emotional regulation skills, their brain looks for another nervous… Read More 1. Why Kind People Are Targeted by Emotional Freeloaders

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What Emotional Freeloading Looks Like

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Emotional freeloading is when someone takes emotional support, care, attention, or stability from another person without giving it back, taking responsibility, or showing genuine empathy in return. It’s not a clinical diagnosis, but it’s a very accurate psychological description of a pattern many people recognise instantly once they’ve lived it. What Emotional Freeloading Looks Like An emotional freeloader: They… Read More What Emotional Freeloading Looks Like

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A Breath of Fresh Air: Why Meeting the Right People Restores Your Faith in Humanity

By Linda C J Turner, Therapist & Advocate — Linda C J Turner Trauma Therapist | Neuroscience & Emotional Intelligence Practitioner | Advocate for Women’s Empowerment ©Linda C J Turner

Every now and then, someone walks into your life and reminds you that not all humans are chaotic, exhausting, or emotionally under-evolved.A calm, intelligent, good-looking man.A relaxed evening.No drama.No hidden agenda.Just connection. It’s astonishing how something so simple can feel like oxygen when you’ve been living under emotional rubble. 1. Your Nervous System Responds to… Read More A Breath of Fresh Air: Why Meeting the Right People Restores Your Faith in Humanity

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Why Domestic Violence — and the Court Process — Takes Such a Heavy Toll on the Mind and Body

People think the trauma ends when you leave.But anyone who has lived it knows: the legal process can feel like Round Two.It’s not just stressful — it’s biologically exhausting. 1. Living in Survival Mode Damages the Nervous System Domestic abuse keeps your brain in a chronic fight-or-flight state.The amygdala becomes overactive.The nervous system stays hyper-alert.Cortisol floods your… Read More Why Domestic Violence — and the Court Process — Takes Such a Heavy Toll on the Mind and Body

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Why Smart, Strong People Fall for the Façade at First

People often ask, “How did you not see it?”But the truth is: the façade is designed to be believable. It’s engineered — psychologically and neurologically — to bypass your instincts. Here’s why so many people fall for it: 1. The Brain Trusts Consistency, Not Honesty The human brain is wired to detect patterns.If someone consistently presents themselves… Read More Why Smart, Strong People Fall for the Façade at First

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“It Didn’t Take My Psychologist Long to See It”: The Neuroscience Behind Denial in Abusive Behaviour

By Linda C J Turner, Therapist & Advocate — Linda C J Turner Trauma Therapist | Neuroscience & Emotional Intelligence Practitioner | Advocate for Women’s Empowerment ©Linda C J Turner

It’s almost laughable how quickly a trained psychologist can see through someone like him.The patterns aren’t subtle. They’re predictable. They’re textbook.It’s not rocket science — unless you’re blind to it, or emotionally invested in the fantasy instead of the truth. But his denial?That’s where the neuroscience gets interesting. 1. Denial Isn’t Ignorance — It’s a Brain-Based Defense Mechanism… Read More “It Didn’t Take My Psychologist Long to See It”: The Neuroscience Behind Denial in Abusive Behaviour

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