Understanding Denial: Defense Mechanisms in Action

If someone’s denial of their aggression continues to affect relationships or creates an unhealthy environment, involving a neutral third party, like a therapist or mediator, can be valuable. Therapy provides a space where denial can be gently unpacked without judgment, often revealing underlying issues that contribute to the behavior. A trained professional can facilitate open, safe dialogue, helping the person in denial gain insight and recognize patterns that may be damaging to others.… Read More Understanding Denial: Defense Mechanisms in Action

In Denial

Admitting to what they’ve done could have serious consequences—social, emotional, or even legal. They might be afraid of losing relationships, respect, or status, so they dig their heels in, convincing themselves and others of their innocence. This fear-based denial is often about damage control.

4. Manipulative Defense

For some, denial is a manipulative tactic. By refusing to acknowledge the truth, they keep everyone around them confused and uncertain. They know that if they deny long enough, it might make others doubt their own experiences or back down from confronting them. This strategy is about control, maintaining the upper hand by distorting the facts.… Read More In Denial

Shock and Disbelief

The immediate reaction is often shock—a sense of disbelief that they’ve actually been caught. For someone who has evaded capture for years, their brain may struggle to process the reality that their run is over. They might feel detached from the situation, as if it’s happening to someone else. Their entire life has been defined by successfully avoiding consequences, and suddenly facing them can be jarring and disorienting.

This disbelief can manifest in thoughts like, “How did this happen?” or “This can’t be real.” They may go over their past actions, trying to figure out where they went wrong, feeling a sense of confusion as their mental image of being untouchable crumbles. The mind resists accepting that the game is over, which prolongs the sense of shock.

Example: Someone might sit in a holding cell, replaying the events that led to their capture, trying to find a moment where they could have done something differently, refusing to believe that their time has finally run out.… Read More Shock and Disbelief