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Forgiving Yourself and Staying Soft: A Neuroscientific and Psychological Perspective

By Linda C J Turner, Therapist & Advocate — Linda C J Turner Trauma Therapist | Neuroscience & Emotional Intelligence Practitioner | Advocate for Women’s Empowerment ©Linda C J Turner

Forgiveness is often seen as something we extend to others, but self-forgiveness is a profound act of healing, especially after trauma, mistakes, or deep personal regrets. It is not about excusing harm or minimizing wrongdoing; it is about acknowledging your humanity, integrating your experiences, and cultivating resilience without hardening your heart. 1. The Neuroscience of Self-Forgiveness… Read More Forgiving Yourself and Staying Soft: A Neuroscientific and Psychological Perspective

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❌ How Many Times Should You Forgive Someone Who Has Physically Abused You?

Let’s be clear: You shouldn’t. When abuse becomes physical, it becomes dangerous. Life-threatening. Non-negotiable. I speak from lived experience — not theory, not speculation.And I’m here to tell you the hard truth many don’t want to say out loud: Physical abuse doesn’t just “happen.” It escalates. Do not wait for it to “get better.” Do not wait for… Read More ❌ How Many Times Should You Forgive Someone Who Has Physically Abused You?

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“I Choose Peace: The Strength in Silence When Faced with Cruelty”

There are moments when the pain inflicted by others feels so sharp, so personal, that the most natural response is to strike back. It’s a primal urge — to defend, to retaliate, to return every insult or cruelty with equal force. But what if real power lies not in the reaction, but in the pause?… Read More “I Choose Peace: The Strength in Silence When Faced with Cruelty”

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💔 Forgiving the Ones Who Left: A Psychological Reflection on Abandonment and Healing

Forgiveness is often misunderstood — especially when it comes to the people who walked away.Those who could have stayed, but didn’t.Those who saw your pain and chose silence.Those who had a seat at your table, in your life, in your heart — and then left you to pick up the pieces alone. Forgiveness, in these cases, is… Read More 💔 Forgiving the Ones Who Left: A Psychological Reflection on Abandonment and Healing

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When Reconciliation Isn’t What You Truly Need: Choosing Yourself After Being Overlooked

There was a time when a friend — someone I cared about deeply — reached out to talk about reconciliation. At that moment, I believed that maybe it was what I wanted too. I’d spent months reflecting, and I even spoke to my psychologist beforehand to prepare myself emotionally. But then came the response that… Read More When Reconciliation Isn’t What You Truly Need: Choosing Yourself After Being Overlooked

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🦋 Final Thought: Once the Line Has Been Crossed…

When a partner allows others—especially family members—to disrespect or defame their significant other, that breach of loyalty is not just hurtful; it’s destabilizing. It breaks the emotional safety that relationships are built on. And when the damage extends to stepchildren, creating alienation and loss of trust, reconciliation might not just feel impossible—it might be inappropriate unless profound… Read More 🦋 Final Thought: Once the Line Has Been Crossed…

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🔍 When the Mask Slips: The Truth Behind the Double Life 🔍

You don’t see it at first.Not because you’re naive or blind—but because you trusted. Because you loved. Because you believed in the story you were told. But over time, the cracks begin to show.Something feels off. The gifts feel performative. The kindness feels transactional. And suddenly, with one shift in perspective, it all falls into place: He… Read More 🔍 When the Mask Slips: The Truth Behind the Double Life 🔍

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The Two Faces of Vindictiveness: When Bitterness Becomes a Way of Life

The Two Faces of Vindictiveness: When Bitterness Becomes a Way of Life Some people go through life holding onto every grudge, every perceived slight, and every opportunity to hurt others from the shadows. They wear a mask of civility, playing the role of the charming and agreeable person in public, while behind closed doors, they… Read More The Two Faces of Vindictiveness: When Bitterness Becomes a Way of Life

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Life is Short: Live Fully, Love Deeply, Let Go of Anger – so much sad news this week

Life is Short: Live Fully, Love Deeply, Let Go of Anger Life has a way of reminding us of its fragility when we least expect it. The news of loss, tragedy, or sudden goodbyes can hit us like a wave, shaking our sense of security and making us question what truly matters. In moments like… Read More Life is Short: Live Fully, Love Deeply, Let Go of Anger – so much sad news this week

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True Change Comes From Accountability, Not Expectation

Genuine change should never be conditional. It should come from a place of deep self-awareness and accountability, not driven by the desire to manipulate or control the victim. If someone truly wants to change, their commitment to personal growth and healing should be unconditional, meaning they do it because they recognize the harm they’ve caused and… Read More True Change Comes From Accountability, Not Expectation

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