Antisocial Personality Disorder (ASPD) is a mental health disorder characterized by persistent patterns of disregard for the rights of others, deceit, impulsivity, irritability, aggression, lack of remorse after harming others, and a consistent failure to conform to societal norms and rules. Individuals with antisocial personality disorder may engage in behavior that violates the rights of others without experiencing significant guilt or remorse.
Navigating the aftermath of a difficult relationship is often challenging, but when your ex-partner seems dedicated to undoing everything you’ve worked so hard to build, it can feel like a relentless assault on your peace and happiness. For some, this experience transcends the typical struggles of divorce or separation, plunging into the realm of sustained,… Read More The Cycle of Destruction: Lies, Manipulation, and Hate
You cannot and should not take responsibility for your partner’s behavior or how others viewed them. Everyone is responsible for their own actions, attitudes, and how they navigate relationships with others. If your partner behaved in ways that alienated or upset people, that’s on them. Similarly, if they chose to ignore or misinterpret feedback about their behavior, that’s also their choice.… Read More “Delusional World”
For many bystanders, preserving group harmony feels paramount. They may believe that “letting things go” is preferable to addressing abuse, particularly if the abuser holds influence or power within the group. This prioritization stems from a desire to keep the peace, even if it’s at the expense of the victim’s well-being. In these cases, denial allows the group to avoid the discomfort of confrontation, sidestepping any disruptions that might arise from challenging the abuser.
Unfortunately, this approach enables the gaslighter’s behavior and further isolates the victim. It tells the victim that the appearance of harmony is valued more highly than their safety, feelings, or mental health, pushing them deeper into despair.… Read More When they witnessed abusive or manipulative behavior before
The contrast between abusers and emotionally mature individuals is stark. Emotionally healthy people are willing to take responsibility for their actions, even when it’s uncomfortable or painful. They possess the maturity to reflect on their behavior, recognize when they are at fault, and seek to make amends if they’ve caused harm. Their focus is on personal growth, well-being, and fostering positive relationships with others.
Abusers, on the other hand, are primarily motivated by a desire to maintain their power, control, and the carefully constructed image of themselves as blameless. They lack the willingness or the emotional capacity to confront their own shortcomings, and instead, they prefer to live in denial and self-deception.… Read More Why Abusers Play the Victim Card
Abuse is not an illness that can be treated with medication; it is a behavior that must be confronted and changed through accountability and a commitment to transformation. Abusers choose their actions, and they must be held responsible for the harm they cause. Victims deserve support, validation, and the knowledge that the abuse they endure is never their fault. It’s time to stop excusing abusive behavior with medical labels and to start treating abuse for what it is: a grave violation of human rights that demands accountability and justice.… Read More Abuse Is a Choice, Not a Symptom
Your life is valuable, and you deserve to spend it in peace, surrounded by people who respect, support, and care for you. You are not defined by the abuse you have endured or the efforts you made to change it. You are defined by your strength, your courage, and your worthiness of love and kindness.
Ultimately, it’s not your job to fix an abusive person or to make their behavior acceptable. It’s your job to take care of yourself, to choose your own well-being, and to create a life where you are treated with the respect and compassion you deserve.… Read More Letting Go of the Need to Fix
Hope for Change: Many people stay because they hope their partner will change or that the abuse will stop. Abusers often promise to change or beg for forgiveness, convincing their partner that things will improve.… Read More Last attempt
Cognitive Dissonance: Narcissists experience cognitive dissonance when their actions don’t align with their self-image as a good, powerful, or perfect person. To resolve this inner conflict, they will distort the facts, deny responsibility, or rewrite the narrative to maintain their sense of superiority. They cannot tolerate the thought of being seen as flawed or at fault, so they manipulate the situation to fit a version that aligns with their ideal self.
Shame Avoidance: Beneath their grandiosity, narcissists often carry a deep sense of shame, though they rarely acknowledge or show it. This shame is so profound that they do everything they can to avoid facing it. Admitting to violent or abusive behavior would trigger that shame, and to protect themselves from this overwhelming feeling, they dismiss the incident as trivial or deny it altogether.… Read More Understanding Narcissism and the Need to Protect the Self-Image
When someone minimizes their physical aggression and claims that it was “nothing,” it’s another serious red flag in the relationship. This behavior is a form of emotional manipulation and can be an attempt to gaslight you into doubting the severity of the incident. Whether the aggression is rooted in narcissism, mental illness, or any other factor, minimizing violent behavior is a way for the person to avoid taking responsibility for their actions and to continue exerting control over you.… Read More Minimizing violent behavior
Reaction to Conflict: Narcissistic individuals rarely show remorse after being aggressive. Instead, they may blame their partner or justify their actions as warranted. People with mental illnesses might feel deeply ashamed or regretful after an outburst and might be more open to seeking help to manage their behavior.… Read More Key Differences Between Narcissism and Mental Illness
