Here’s a clear, evidence-based overview of what research shows about non-fatal strangulation — including how common it is, how it affects survivors physically and psychologically, and what we know about how it impacts the person doing the strangulation (to the extent research addresses that). This is grounded in scientific literature and public health data. 📊 Statistics & Prevalence Non-fatal strangulation (NFS) is recognised… Read More Statistics & Prevalence
Talking about strangulation in therapy is not just “talking about a memory.”For many survivors, describing the sensations, fear, and loss of control can reactivate the trauma itself. This is not resistance.It is how the nervous system remembers danger. Why Describing It Feels Overwhelming Strangulation is a primal threat to survival. When it happened, the brain and body… Read More Talking About Strangulation in Therapy: Why It’s So Hard — and How EMDR Can Help
The Short Answer Why Strangulation Is Different Strangulation isn’t an impulsive shove or shouted argument. It is: Research consistently shows that non-fatal strangulation is one of the strongest predictors of future severe violence and homicide. Once someone has crossed that line, the risk profile changes permanently. Is It the Situation or the Person? It is the person.… Read More Strangulation is not about the situation.It is about the person who chooses to use it.
If you are ill, medicated, exhausted, or hospitalised and someone is pushing you to sign documents, transfer assets, or grant Power of Attorney, stop immediately. This is not help.This is risk. Why This Is Dangerous Illness reduces capacity — even temporarily. Pain, medication, fear, and fatigue impair judgment. Decisions made in this state are not fully informed, no… Read More Pressurised While Ill or Hospitalised — Read This First
If you are being encouraged to grant Power of Attorney to anyone connected to a struck-off solicitor, stop immediately. This is not a technical detail.This is a risk issue. Why This Matters A solicitor is usually struck off for serious breaches — dishonesty, misuse of client funds, fraud, or abuse of trust.That history does not disappear just because they are now acting “informally”… Read More Power of Attorney + Struck-Off Solicitors: A Major Red Flag
If family members are pushing you to sell property, move money, or make fast financial decisions during separation, stop and breathe. Pressure is not protection. If advice feels rushed, controlling, or fear-based, it is not about your wellbeing — even if it is framed as “help.” Quiet Red Flags to Notice Support should calm your nervous… Read More If You Feel Pressured or Intimidated by Family — Read This
Before you agree to sell, transfer, divide, or “protect” assets, take a hard look at family history — not just the current situation. Patterns repeat. 🚩 Ask This First: Is there a history in this family of taking control of other people’s: If the answer is yes — pause immediately. ⚠️ A Common Disguise: “We’re Just Protecting You”… Read More Watch for Familiar Family Patterns of Financial Control
(Property, assets, investments — anything) If you are newly separated or divorcing, do not sell, divide, or sign away assets while in emotional shock. Read the following slowly. 🚫 Stop Immediately If: ❗ Reality Check Urgency around selling assets is almost never about your wellbeing.It is usually about: That is self-interest, not care. 🧠 Ask Yourself These… Read More READ THIS BEFORE SELLING ANYTHING
🟢 Healthy Discussions Look Like: 🔴 Unhealthy Pressure Looks Like: ⚠️ Key Reality Check Healthy support does not rush irreversible decisions.Unhealthy influence creates urgency where none legally exists. If slowing down is met with anger, manipulation, or withdrawal of support — that is not guidance. That is control. Use this checklist as a grounding tool… Read More Red Flags Checklist: Healthy Discussion vs Unhealthy Pressure During Separation
During separation and divorce, one of the most important — and most difficult — boundaries to hold is this: Do not allow siblings, children, extended family, or friends to sway your decisions simply because they are close to you. Not everyone involved has your best interests at heart — even when they believe they do.… Read More How Other People’s Agendas Can Distort Separation and Divorce Decisions
Linda C J Turner | Trauma Therapist & Emotional Healing Specialist 