Family-tree Symptoms of Psychological Wounds

Family-tree Symptoms of Psychological Wounds

Miscarriages Stillbirths
Elected or forced child adoptions
Unplanned or unwanted pregnancies
Death of an infant or young child Minor kids
Feeling responsible for, and regularly parenting, younger children and/or disabled adults
Orphaned children Foster parenting
Unusual imaginary companions
Serious bullying by older children
Child kidnapping or abduction
Attempted or completed abortions
Major birth defects or birth traumas
Parental sterility or infertility
Chronic stealing, lying, or vandalism including fire-setting
Suspected or sure parental neglect
Excessively harsh child discipline
Emotionally or physically absent caregivers
School suspensions or many transfers

Relationship

Chronic physical abuse*
Attempted or actual battering or torture
Chronic verbal or emotional abuse
Attempted or completed suicide
“Enshrining” or “erasing” dead or absent family members or other loved ones
Stalking or other sexual (or other) harassment
Divorces or never marrying
Excessive suspicions, jealousy, or distrusts and paranoias; family secrets
Cross-dressing (transvestitism ); sex-change operations; or recurring fantasies of same (may have biological roots)
An inability to bond and/or to tolerate true intimacy; dying alone; “no family or friends
“Associating love with pain, subservience, material things, and/or dependence
Suspected or confirmed incest, rape, or other sexual abuse
Spiritual abuse -excessive terror of hell, Satan, demons, sinning, and/or damnation
Attempted or completed murder
Excessive sexual promiscuity, aversion/s, addictions, or dysfunctions
Unexpected or accidental death of loved ones, specially involving violence
Marital affairs or bigamy
Marital separation and/or family desertion
Prolonged or repeated emotional cutoffs (“not speaking” to close kin or key friends)
Excessive social isolation”Mystery ancestors” (i.e. little is known of them)
Unexpected or accidental death of loved ones, specially involving violence

Health Related

Chronic eating disorders – e.g. anorexia, bulimia, bingeing, obesity, food addiction, phobias, or fetishes
Hospitalization for “nervous breakdown”; “shock” and/or psychiatric treatment
Addictions to activities, substances, causes, relationships, and/or moods (e.g. excitement or arousal)
Dependence on medications for sleep and/or mood-control
Chronic exhaustion without clear medical or other causes
Traumatic body injury or loss of a limb or organ – including sight or hearing; major disabilities
Chronic major muscle tics or spasms; Severe chronic migraines or allergies
Chronic self-neglect – e.g. poor diet, little exercise, and/or ignoring dental, eye, or other medical care and check-ups
Hypochondria – obsession with personal health or fitness; terror of “germs”
Chronic sleep disorders – e.g. insomnia, nightmares, night sweats, TMJ
Chronic digestive or colon disorders – e.g. nausea, ulcers, colitis, “heartburn”
Self-mutilation, including body piercing and unusual or excessive tattooing
Chronic physical and/or “mental” illnesses and/or “mood disorders”
Incurable life-threatening diseases – e.g. AIDS
Sex-change fantasies or surgery;
Open or private cross-dressing

Common Behavioral Symptoms

Workaholism (regularly working 55+ hours per week with few or no vacations)
Obsession with personal or household cleanliness, neatness, and/or hygiene
Inability to focus; excessive “mind- wandering” or “mind-churning”
“Attention Deficit Disorder (ADD)
Chronic apathy, “laziness,” or depression
Multiple Personality Disorder (now Dissociative Identity Disorder)
Major phobias, delusions, and/or reality distortions
Unusual “mood swings” or chronic bizarre behaviors
Reported “schizophrenia”
Chronic anxiety or rage attacks;
Teeth-grinding
Obsession with the occult, spirits, devil worship; paranormal phenomenon; witchcraft; and/or voodoo
Excessive emotional numbness (“headiness”) or volatility
Rabid atheism or excessive spiritual piety, “penances,” and/or self-harmful missionary zeal.
several to many of these symptoms

Social, Financial, or Legal

Failure to graduate from one or more schools or colleges
Church excommunication, defrocking, or scandal
Legal disbarment
Loss of professional license or tenure
Personal or business bankruptcy
Excessive gambling and/or debts; or excessive hoarding and/or fear of poverty and debt
Flunking a grade
Being “held back”
“Unreasonable” or chronic legal suits
Homelessness / Chronic poverty Chronic job losses and/or unemployment Traumatic family or public humiliation
Religious, social, or political fanaticism or notable bigotry – e.g. Ku Klux Klan, Skin-heads, anti-government “militia”
Committing major crimes
Arrests Jail terms Court martial and/or dishonorable discharge IRS trouble
Concentration-camp internment
Religious, ethnic, and/or political persecution
Local warfare, rioting, bombing, or military invasion
Serious cult or gang involvement
School, organizational, or military censure, sanctions, disbarment, or expulsion
Dwelling complaints or evictions

Other Trauma or Symptoms

Human-service occupation/s: e.g. clergy / law / welfare casework / mental health / medicine / education / consulting / etc.
Reported or known animal sacrifices, torture, or entrapment
Vehicle, boat, or plane accident or wreck
Serious injuries from animals, fish, reptiles, or insects
Major natural disasters – e.g. floods, epidemics, droughts, tornados, fires, earthquakes, volcanic eruptions, tidal waves, mud slides, hurricanes, plagues,…
Mugging, personal robbery, dwelling break-ins, blackmail, extortions
Kidnapping, torture, and/or molesting of a loved one

If you are significantly wounded, you’re likely to minimize or deny some of these family-tree traits. Also, traumas or traits like these can be (shameful) family secrets, and you may never have been told about them.

In general, the more of these traits someone’s parents and/or other ancestors had, the higher the odds that significant psychological wounds passed on to the next generation.

Your journey toward healing and well-being starts with a single step. I am here to walk this path with you.

With warmth and understanding,

Linda C J Turner

Emotional Trauma Therapist

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