EMDR Therapy

Trauma (PTSD and C-PTSD)) should not be a life sentence. Therapies like EMDR is a brain-body based therapy, which can be used to tap into the part of the brain called the limbic system which goes beyond talking therapy. I use an EMDR method called Butterfly Tapping  which uses a bi lateral stimulation of crossing the arms and tapping each side. If you would like to know more about EMDR or book a consultation, please go to my page for payment details.

Narcissistic tendencies

It’s not uncommon for people with narcissistic tendencies to experience other mental health concerns, including depression, anxiety, anorexia nervosa, and substance misuse. These other issues, rather than narcissistic traits, often encourage people to seek therapy.

Therapies for Narcissism

There are a few types of therapy that are particularly useful for dealing with narcissism.

Schema therapy, a newer approach to treatment shown to have benefit for treating narcissism, works to help people address trauma of early experiences that may have contributed to narcissistic defenses.

Other beneficial therapies include:

Gestalt therapy
mentalization-based therapy
transference-focused psychotherapy
psychoanalysis

Mental toughness

Mental toughness is about more than just having resilience and control in difficult situations. It relates to a psychological frame of mind that endorses confidence and commitment to success. In his book Developing Mental Toughness, the psychologist Peter Clough describes mental toughness as a combination of the following:

  • The amount of control a person believes they have over their life and emotions;
  • How much commitment is placed upon achieving goals despite hardship;
  • Being able to see potential threats as opportunities for self-development;
  • Continuing to strive in changing environments;
  • The level of confidence a person has in succeeding despite setbacks.

Mental toughness levels are influenced by many different factors. While genetics are partly responsible, a person’s environment is also relevant. For example, both positive experiences while you’re young and mental toughness training programmes have been found to make people mentally tougher.

https://theconversation.com/mental-toughness-can-help-you-cope-with-challenging-events-like-the-pandemic-heres-how-to-cultivate-

Self-efficacy

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Self-efficacy is, according to psychologist Albert Bandura who originally proposed the concept, a personal judgment of how well or poorly a person is able to cope with a given situation based on the skills they have and the circumstances they face.[1]

Self-efficacy affects every area of human endeavor. By determining the beliefs a person holds regarding their power to affect situations, Self-Efficacy strongly influences both the power a person actually has to face challenges competently and the choices a person is most likely to make. These effects are particularly apparent, and compelling, with regard to investment behaviors such as in health,[2] education,[3] and agriculture.[4]

A strong sense of self efficacy promotes human accomplishment and personal well-being. A person with high self-efficacy views challenges as things that are supposed to be mastered rather than threats to avoid. These people are able to recover from failure faster and are more likely to attribute failure to a lack of effort. They approach threatening situations with the belief that they can control them. These things have been linked to lower levels of stress and a lower vulnerability to depression. [1]

In contrast, people with a low sense of self-efficacy view difficult tasks as personal threats and shy away from them. Difficult tasks lead them to look at the skills they lack rather than the ones they have. It is easy for them to lose faith in their own abilities after a failure. Low self-efficacy can be linked to higher levels of stress and depression. [1]

No man is hurt but by himself

… that no man is hurt but by himself.

Diogenes said that, and he was right. Every person’s experience is created internally, by him or herself.

No one outside of you can tell you what anything means, or whether you are “hurt” or not.

If you feel hurt by something or someone, it is the result of your decision to feel that way.

This may be tough to hear, but it is true. You can change your mind at any moment about how something is affecting you.

A few questions to get you thinking!

  • What do you look forward to?
  • What friendships make you smile and feel more positive?
  • What hobbies bring out the best in you?
  • What do you deliberately do when you are down in order to feel better?
  • What music tends to lift your spirits?
  • What do your friends and family do that lifts your spirits?
  • Who could you call to get a boost?